When a client comes to see me to discuss divorce it is not unusual for
me to hear “I think my spouse is hiding assets. I have no idea what
assets we have, or where they are. What do I do?”
At many of my seminars, I advise couples getting married to pay attention
to the family finances. Both parties should know about the incoming assets,
taxes, real estate etc. I encourage them not to be passive. You may be
married to someone who abusive, controlling and paranoid. I always advise
both parties take an active role and be an equal partner in all aspects
of their marriage. It is your right as an equal partner to participate
in making financial decisions, paying the bills, and maintaining financial
records. Abusive relationships do not meet this test. It also puts you
in a much better position if your marriage should unfortunately end in divorce.
If you are considering divorce, it is important to prepare yourself and
it is in your best interest to know as much as possible about your finances.
When it comes to divorce, no one likes an asset-hiding spouse. Especially
What are some of the telltale signs assets are being hidden?
1) Your spouse is secretive about money;
2) Your spouse demands and maintains control over money;
3) Financial statements that once came to the home, disappear or are sent
to the office;
4) New financial accounts have been opened without explanation;
5) Your spouse has opened a PO box;
6) There have been some new “flashy” purchases (cars, watches, boats);
7) You are asked to blindly sign documents without reading them first;
8) Your spouse’s behavior has changed in how financial documents
are filed or stored.
What types of assets can be hidden?
1) Money (cash) ;
5) Real estate
8) Cars, boats, antiques (housed by family and friends)
How can assets be hidden?
1) Make gifts to family and friends (with the understanding it will be
2) Multiple Internet banking accounts-no statements mailed to the home
3) Use a PO Box as mailing address;
4) Safety deposit box at bank
5) Create corporations or business partnerships
6) Asking employers to delay bonuses
7) Foreign accounts;
8) Overpaying the IRS
9) Coin, art, gun, jewelry, memorabilia collections
How can you track down “hidden assets?”
Hire a divorce attorney, private investigator and/or a forensic accountant.
Trained forensic specialists will be able to do a “ lifestyle analysis”
looking at many factors to determine if income is accurate by reviewing
tax returns, W-2’s, investigating deferred salary, commissions and
bonuses . They will also scrutinize financial accounts, both here and
abroad, payments to the IRS, and investments in real estate. In addition
they can do extensive asset searches using computer forensics, obtain
and review credit reports, and review irregular ATM activity.
With over 35 years of experience as a divorce attorney and as a psychologically-trained
mediator I can tell you, if you think your spouse is hiding assets, it’s
If you are concerned and fear your spouse is hiding money, and divorce
may be where you are headed, call me. I can guide you on what to look
for, how to investigate, and most importantly how to get financially prepared.
It is wise to know where all the assets are so you can get the best financial
outcome in your divorce. Let us help you. My team of forensic experts
are some of the very best! 212.734.1551