As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator, I hear all
kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these
stories monthly with you.
Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my
clients. The purpose of sharing these divorce stories with you is to let
you know, you are not alone. There are peaceful, rational solutions available to you.
You really can have a happily-ever-after.
Frank and Melissa were married for 11 years. They had two beautiful children,
ages 8 and 5. They were both professionals. He was a podcast producer,
she a dance teacher. They lived in in a large home in Connecticut. When
I received a phone call from Frank on a Sunday he was angry, and heartbroken.
He left a voice message saying he wanted a divorce immediately!
During our phone consultation the next day, he told me that his wife had
reconnected with her first love on Facebook and was having an affair with him.
He had found out by accident while scrolling through some conversations
on Facebook. He confronted his wife and she didn’t deny it. She
was actually excited about having reconnected.
To add insult to injury, it had been going on for 2 years. His wife immediately
said she wanted a divorce and no longer wanted to live a lie. She was
going to see a divorce attorney, and that is why Frank called me.
They owned a home together valued at $550,000.00. Frank had an inheritance
from before the marriage of 1.4 million dollars. They both had retirement
funds, and a valuable antique car collection.
Frank then went on to say he wanted full custody of their 2 children because
he didn’t want his children living with his wife and her boyfriend.
After he calmed down I told him that battling in court was not the solution
in this case. I encouraged him to consider mediation because his case,
and more importantly his family, needed a compassionate approach to their
divorce. There were elements to this case that required some emotional
sensitivity and fair and reasonable legal negotiation.
After awhile, he agreed and I invited his wife to have a conversation with
me about mediation. I’m happy to report, in this case, mediation
Eventually Frank agreed to joint custody. There was an understanding the
wife’s boyfriend, for now, would not reside in the home with their
children. The house, inheritance, pensions and car collection were all
If this sounds like you, please know that discussion, compassion, negotiation,
and solid legal guidance can solve your divorce problems. The magic of
mediation can really help.
If you would like to share your story with me, call me. I will give you
common sense answers to all your divorce questions. I will help you, as
I did with Frank and his family, to find a silver lining, using my powerful
divorce mediation method so you can move on with your life peacefully.
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I look forward to hearing your story, and helping you find the best possible solution.
Stay healthy and safe!
Call New York Divorce Attorney, Lois Brenner now to book your Free Consultation.