A player from the national hockey league called my office a few months ago and scheduled a consultation.
His wife seemed to have depression issues and a personality disorder. She would not get treatment and was damaging the family.
He had tried to cope with it for many years, especially as he was on the road a lot, but he felt it was taking a toll on their children who were left to cope with her frequent drinking, abusive behavior and temper tantrums.
He knew he wanted a divorce, but he didn't know how to tell her. He was afraid she would get hysterical and be thoroughly unreasonable. He did not want to have to call the police under any circumstances or attract any unnecessary public attention.
As a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I suggested that he invite her to go to some therapy sessions with him to help "them" get along better. By verbally taking responsibility for their difficulties, he was able to convince her to see a therapist I recommended from my team of skilled professionals who often works with couples when one of them does not want a divorce.
After several sessions with the doctor, he was able to talk to his wife about divorce and convince her he would take good care of her and their children, which was exactly the reassurance she needed. The doctor also recommended medication for the wife, which would help her feel better and help her through the divorce process.
Although we went back and forth about litigation or mediation, since I can do both, we discussed the pros and cons and the husband decided to introduce mediation to his wife.
Instead of going to court and fighting, they both decided to try a psychologically based mediation process I have devised with my medical background, using a knowledge of their personalities and character traits to help them come to an agreement.
By engaging in this private process, the couple was able to keep their separation out of the press, maintain their dignity, arrived at a fair settlement and make healthy decisions for their children.
They are all doing a lot better now and I’m happy to report his wife has continued her therapy, stayed on the medication and is really thriving!
If you are having a problem telling your spouse you want a divorce, give me a call and I will help you make a plan to ease the pain of confronting the problem.
Take advantage of my free consultation offer. I will answer all your questions!
As a seasoned, medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I am uniquely equipped to help with spouses that have personality disorders and other mental health issues.
I look forward to speaking with you and helping you and your family through this delicate process.
Warm regards,
Lois Brenner
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