EXPERIENCE THE HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL BRENNER DIVORCE MEDIATION METHOD!
What is the first thing you think of when you hear the word “divorce?”
“Fight!” Hire a Lawyer.”
This is the way it’s been ever since the founding of our country when we
imported the British legal model for divorce – the adversarial system. Now that one in
every two marriages in this country ends in divorce, the devastation caused by the system
has come under question. Is there a better way?
Yes. It’s called “Mediation.” New on the radar for the last few years, it is now
becoming more widely known. It was previously employed in labor negotiations, but its
use has been expanding to include family law problems.
Here’s how it works: The divorcing couple hires one individual, instead of two
opposing lawyers, to help them resolve their differences. The mediator is an
independent, unbiased individual, trained in mediation (usually a lawyer or a mental
health professional), whose job is to facilitate an agreement on all issues between the
husband and wife. The results are astonishing and are achieved often in hours and
weeks, instead of months and year. The central truth about divorce today is that it is not
just a legal experience, it is also a psychological experience. In the traditional system
Divorce is a conflict-based, lengthy, and costly process which completely ignores the
important psychological dynamics and behavior of the couple.
As you know abusive relationships are very much in the news today. Many marriages end because one party is abusive, and often the victim is not even aware of the abuse. The old system of divorce encourages people to hurt each other and to fight when it is not absolutely necessary. It is possible for couples to change their automatic behavior and achieve an entirely different outcome.
I developed my unique divorce mediation method during my 35+ years of experience and practice as a divorce attorney, psychologically - trained medical professional, and court-appointed mediator. My divorce mediation method involves behavior modifications, the use of psychology - identifying personality and character traits, emotions, family dynamics, and applying the law to develop strategies for a more positive experience. This method is less adversarial, less expensive, and less time-consuming than the traditional system. It keeps couples out of court and away from lawyers. Unlike the standard approach, this method takes into consideration the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that affect divorcing couples, and which, if properly identified, can be used to leverage a more successful and calmer outcome.
Unlike the approach of other divorce attorneys my divorce mediation method addresses the pervasive presence of verbal abuse in its many destructive forms:
- Criticizing
- Hiding finances
- Blaming
- Controlling
- Threatening
- Denial
- Insulting
- Withholding
- Ignoring
- Gas lighting
- Separating from friends and family Verbal abuse disguised as jokes.
My divorce mediation method does not approach Divorce just based on the law, it’s based on psychology too! You get to choose how you want to end your marriage. You can litigate, negotiate or mediate. How you navigate the process depends not only on the law of your state but largely upon the psychological dynamics of your relationship; the emotions, thoughts, personality traits and behavior of the individuals.
The personality and behavior of both you and your spouse make a difference—a big difference—in the nature and outcome of your divorce.
Let me help you avoid the traditional horror stories of divorce!
I will work for and with both of you to help you reach a settlement that permits you to
concentrate on the future and the potential it holds. There is a typical process we will use
to reach a settlement; however, your individual needs may cause us to depart from a strict
adherence to it.
During the process we will:
- Develop current and future income information;
- Develop budgets;
- Inventory marriage assets (property);
- Begin to define each of your short – and long-term goals;
- Define general areas of agreement;
- Identify substantive areas of disagreement;
- Identify symbolic and emotional issues;
- Work through the parenting arrangements;
- Negotiate money differences.
If you want to try a highly successful, less expensive, compassionate approach to your divorce call me! I will help you navigate your divorce using the law and psychology to achieve a productive, fair, amicable agreement and a happier future!
Call New York Divorce Attorney and Mediator Lois Brenner today to schedule your Divorce Mediation Session! 212.734.1551
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Lois is a “Rock Star” I was very worried about my daughter who was in a really bad marriage. I started researching divorce attorneys and found Lois Brenner. I called her, discussed my daughter’s horrible marriage and she agreed to meet with us. Since my daughter’s husband wanted out of the marriage too (he was cheating), Lois suggested she help them dissolve their marriage in mediation. To my surprise it worked out. Lois was able to keep my daughter and husband from fighting during their sessions, and she helped them resolve all their financial issues. Since I was paying the fees to help my daughter, not having to go to court saved us a great deal of money. As a father, I am truly grateful for everything Lois did. Her talks with me in the beginning of the process, to calm me down, really helped. I would highly recommend her to anyone thinking of divorce.- Graham (happy dad)
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Finding my way to Lois was the best thing that could have happened during my very contentious divorce. Lois took on my case with a level of care that has been above and beyond. She has been an incredible advocate for me, both legally, guiding me through this difficult process with knowledge and wisdom, and also personally, helping give me strength and support to stand up to my very aggressive ex husband. Lois is a gift, and I am so grateful to her and for the future she is helping to make possible to myself and for my son.- SC
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I am a highly successful money manager and before meeting Lois Brenner, hiring a divorce attorney was a disaster. Two previous divorce attorneys really wasted my funds, and had no savvy when it came to asset and property distribution. Lois Brenner finally fixed the mess I was in. She and her team of financial experts, including attorney Matthew Ehrlich were able to prepare an asset and property distribution that was realistic, keeping in mind tax ramifications, and important distributions and allocations. They negotiated a thorough and financially sound divorce settlement. If you have a lot of assets, just any divorce attorney won’t do. You really need someone with a lot of knowledge. Lois Brenner and Matthew Ehrlich were really impressive. Thanks!!- Michael C.
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Lois Brenner, her colleagues, team of experts and staff are phenominal. I hired them to help me to see my son who had been taken out of state by my wife during this insane pandemic. She decided to take him to stay with family but then she sideswiped me with a divorce. I was devastated. Lois Brenner and her litigation partner fought for me and made it possible for me to see my son. They are handling my divorce now and their strength and support is getting me through a really tough time. They are smart, tough and highly experienced.
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When I first decided to hire a divorce attorney, I thought a male attorney would be best. Lois Brenner really surprised me. Although she has written a divorce book on women’s rights, she is totally an advocate for men as well. She really understood how much I loved my kids, and listened and understood all the horrible things my wife was doing to destroy their relationship with me. She didn’t miss a beat and really went to bat for me. She reached out to my wife’s attorney every time my wife made any attempt to disrupt my visiting our kids and always demanded the best results. She made herself available, even when she was on vacation! Lois has been there every step of the way in these difficult circumstances. I highly recommend her.- Sam
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I had a complicated situation wherein I had to get a divorce through publication as my husband and I had not been in contact for 5 years and I was out of the US for a few years. (it was an abusive marriage) I reside in Buffalo and I spoke with several attorneys locally but I did not feel that any of the local attorneys were able able to understand my situation. Some suggested that I locate my husband, and each one of them wanted to start by identifying and listing the assets. Unsatisfied, I started looking for attorneys in NY city, and I found Ms. Brenner through Avvo. During the consultation, she was extremely kind and understanding and agreed to take on my case. Ms. Brenner helped me get a divorce through publication and she/her team took care of everything. All I had to do was provide her with documentation. I am grateful to Ms. Brenner for helping me get out of a sticky stressful situation. I would definitely recommend her to anybody in a similar situation. Thank you, Ms. Brenner.
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Connecting with Lois was the best thing that could have happened during what has been very difficult and fraught divorce. Lois took on my case with knowledge, wisdom and care that have been above and beyond in every way. She recognized abusive and unstable behavior in my ex-husband, and offered both strong legal guidance, as well as personal encouragement and strength to stand up to him. Her support has been invaluable to me, and I am so deeply grateful for everything she has done in helping forge a better more stable future for me and for my son.- SC
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Amazing, Skillful Mediator!!!! We went to see Lois Brenner for a mediation consultation. We had pretty much decided our marriage was over. We just wanted to end things fair and amicably. Lois Brenner spent so much time with us, and gave us great insight as to how the process would help us, we hired her on the spot. Our sessions thereafter were stealth. She organized us, helped us identify and address all the issues. She showed us how to communicate effectively throughout the process. We were able to address all our issues, especially property and finances, arrive at a comfortable settlement agreement, and now we are waiting for the judge to sign our divorce. What an extraordinary process. I highly recommend Lois Brenner and mediation. She’s super, and mediation really works.- Maggie and Josh
