You would be very surprised to learn that psychological problems plague
many divorcing couples today, and they don’t even know it. That
is until now! When you look at the complex issues that infect families
like verbal and physical abuse, paranoia, bipolar disorder, perpetual
lying, controlling behaviors and so on, it is no wonder that couples end
up in the offices of divorce attorneys.
But the average divorce attorney is not going to address the underlying
psychological issues as part of their legal strategy. Quite frankly, they
don’t care to nor do they have the knowledge or skills to do so.
Divorce is often the final straw in a battle that is raging in the imbalanced
dynamics of the marriage. As you know mental and psychological issues
affect more than just the individual. They hurt and sometimes destroy
the entire family. That’s why these families need special, skilled
attention to obtain a divorce in a safe, strategic and psychologically
supportive environment.
Does your spouse exhibit the following:
1. Aggressive, angry behavior, abusive verbally? physically?
2. Poor impulse control, drug addiction, alcoholism, sexual promiscuity?
3. Lack of remorse?
4. Irresponsibility - trouble holding a job, paying bills, non-commital?
5. Deceitful, manipulative?
6. Lying all the time?
7. Hiding financial documents and information?
If you have answered “Yes” to some of the above, your marriage
is likely being sabotaged by the difficult and ugly effects of psychological
issues. The next step is to decide what to do about it. Sometimes seeing
a therapist can address and treat these issues for those of you who would
like to save your marriage. I always encourage couples to take this path
if their desire is to stay in their marriage. I believe in supporting
love and family whenever possible. Staying in the marriage, if these issues
exist, requires the support of skilled psychological guidance, willing
participants and in some cases medication to make a healthier marriage
possible. For those who have decided they cannot survive the devastating
effects sociopathic behavior can have on a marriage, I suggest they consider
mediation. Mediation with an attorney who is both psychologically skilled
at managing this scenario and legally savvy. As a divorce attorney, mediator
and psychologically-trained medical professional, the benefit of my guidance
is that I will be able to identify and address the psychological issues
while guiding you both towards a divorce that can be accomplished amicably,
affordably and with the psychological sensitivity required for the family
to move on. For the individual in the marriage suffering from mood or
personality disorder, there is also an opportunity to receive the guidance
and help he or she needs to move towards a psychologically healthier life
in the process.
If you find yourself in a marriage dealing with these issues and you can
no longer cope, call me. I will help you constructively move towards a
healthy resolution using creative legal skills and provide you with a
unique psychological sensitivity Call me to discuss the dynamics of your
marriage. Take the first step to find a healthy solution! I am here to
help. Call 212 734.1551.