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EXPERIENCE THE HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL BRENNER DIVORCE MEDIATION METHOD!

What is the first thing you think of when you hear the word “divorce?”

“Fight!” Hire a Lawyer.”

This is the way it’s been ever since the founding of our country when we

imported the British legal model for divorce – the adversarial system. Now that one in

every two marriages in this country ends in divorce, the devastation caused by the system

has come under question. Is there a better way?

Yes. It’s called “Mediation.” New on the radar for the last few years, it is now

becoming more widely known. It was previously employed in labor negotiations, but its

use has been expanding to include family law problems.

Here’s how it works: The divorcing couple hires one individual, instead of two

opposing lawyers, to help them resolve their differences. The mediator is an

independent, unbiased individual, trained in mediation (usually a lawyer or a mental

health professional), whose job is to facilitate an agreement on all issues between the

husband and wife. The results are astonishing and are achieved often in hours and

weeks, instead of months and year. The central truth about divorce today is that it is not

just a legal experience, it is also a psychological experience. In the traditional system

Divorce is a conflict-based, lengthy, and costly process which completely ignores the

important psychological dynamics and behavior of the couple.

As you know abusive relationships are very much in the news today. Many marriages end because one party is abusive, and often the victim is not even aware of the abuse. The old system of divorce encourages people to hurt each other and to fight when it is not absolutely necessary. It is possible for couples to change their automatic behavior and achieve an entirely different outcome.

I developed my unique divorce mediation method during my 35+ years of experience and practice as a divorce attorney, psychologically - trained medical professional, and court-appointed mediator. My divorce mediation method involves behavior modifications, the use of psychology - identifying personality and character traits, emotions, family dynamics, and applying the law to develop strategies for a more positive experience. This method is less adversarial, less expensive, and less time-consuming than the traditional system. It keeps couples out of court and away from lawyers. Unlike the standard approach, this method takes into consideration the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that affect divorcing couples, and which, if properly identified, can be used to leverage a more successful and calmer outcome.

Unlike the approach of other divorce attorneys my divorce mediation method addresses the pervasive presence of verbal abuse in its many destructive forms:

  • Criticizing
  • Hiding finances
  • Blaming
  • Controlling
  • Threatening
  • Denial
  • Insulting
  • Withholding
  • Ignoring
  • Gas lighting
  • Separating from friends and family Verbal abuse disguised as jokes.

My divorce mediation method does not approach Divorce just based on the law, it’s based on psychology too! You get to choose how you want to end your marriage. You can litigate, negotiate or mediate. How you navigate the process depends not only on the law of your state but largely upon the psychological dynamics of your relationship; the emotions, thoughts, personality traits and behavior of the individuals.

The personality and behavior of both you and your spouse make a difference—a big difference—in the nature and outcome of your divorce.

Let me help you avoid the traditional horror stories of divorce!

I will work for and with both of you to help you reach a settlement that permits you to

concentrate on the future and the potential it holds. There is a typical process we will use

to reach a settlement; however, your individual needs may cause us to depart from a strict

adherence to it.

During the process we will:

  • Develop current and future income information;
  • Develop budgets;
  • Inventory marriage assets (property);
  • Begin to define each of your short – and long-term goals;
  • Define general areas of agreement;
  • Identify substantive areas of disagreement;
  • Identify symbolic and emotional issues;
  • Work through the parenting arrangements;
  • Negotiate money differences.

If you want to try a highly successful, less expensive, compassionate approach to your divorce call me! I will help you navigate your divorce using the law and psychology to achieve a productive, fair, amicable agreement and a happier future!

Call New York Divorce Attorney and Mediator Lois Brenner today to schedule your Divorce Mediation Session! 212.734.1551

    “You are extremely knowledgeable and the consummate professional.”
    “You are extremely knowledgeable and the consummate professional.”
    - Ben and Jill
    “Remarkable lawyer and lady!”
    Lois Brenner is a remarkable attorney and compassionate advocate for dads. She guided me when I was confused and didn't know what to do to get shared custody of my daughter. She encouraged me to stay strong and to fight, and she negotiated a much better custody arrangement than my previous lawyer. What great attorney. Thank you Ms. Brenner
    - Christoff
    “Brenner divorce method really works!!”
    I had read about Lois’ unusual divorce method in one of her blog posts. It was refreshing to see someone was working with the psychological issues in divorce. My husband is bipolar and getting him to agree to a divorce and commit to the process was tough. When we met with Lois she really understood him. She immediately identified his mental health issues, and because she has a psych background, she was empathetic to his needs and was skillful at guiding him through her divorce mediation process. It took a while but she really got us to a point where we could actually discuss things without my husband blowing up. Her method is unique and it really helped in our situation. She actually recommended a great psychiatrist who changed my husband’s meds at her urging (she has a medical degree too), and my husband is coping much better. We can’t thank her enough for her compassion and advice! If you need a divorce attorney, especially if mental illness is a part of the fabric of your marriage, go see Lois! Thanks Lois 
    - Beena T.
    “She gave me the best advice, in such a caring and kind way.”
    I have hired Mrs. Brenner and had the best experience with her in my complicated and intense divorce. She was there for me all the way, always answering promptly any questions I had. She gave me the best advice, in such a caring and kind way. She has an amazing team of specialists, that will cover any needs you might have. I highly recommend Mrs. Brenner, you can feel she’s got your back!
    - JN
    “The most understanding and accommodating Firm”
    Dealing with this firm was a gift from above. They were very understanding and made the whole process painless. They are open after regular work hours which was super convenient for a working professional. As a Surgeon in NYC going through this process the firm was very accommodating to my changing schedule. I am forever grateful that the firm was able to find a great solution to all issues so that everyone was taken into account and came to a responsible agreement. Thank you Lois Brenner you are the best!
    - Jose Loor
    “Brenner Divorce Method really works!!”
    I had read about Lois’ unusual divorce method in one of her blog posts. It was refreshing to see someone was working with the psychological issues in divorce. My husband is bipolar and getting him to agree to a divorce and commit to the process was tough. When we met with Lois she really understood him. She immediately identified his mental health issues, and because she has a psych background, she was empathetic to his needs and was skillful at guiding him through her divorce mediation process. It took a while but she really got us to a point where we could actually discuss things without my husband blowing up. Her method is unique and it really helped in our situation. She actually recommended a great psychiatrist who changed my husband’s meds at her urging (she has a medical degree too), and my husband is coping much better. We can’t thank her enough for her compassion and advice! If you need a divorce attorney, especially if mental illness is a part of the fabric of your marriage, go see Lois! Thanks Lois 
    - Lorna P.
    “No words can express what you have done for our family!”
    “No words can express what you have done for our family!”
    - Ken
    “Keep up the good work!”
    “Keep up the good work!”
    - Jonathan

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