Take a look at my Letter to the Editor at
The New York Times on Mediating Abusive Relationships.
You may find it interesting!
If you or someone you know is being abused I can show you how mediation
can be helpful when dealing with abusive relationships. Please feel free
to call me at
I look forward to helping you.
To the Editor:
Re “How Abusive Relationships Take Root” (Health,
nytimes.com, May 11):
As a divorce lawyer and a medically trained professional who specializes
in psychologically infused mediation as a successful method to help abused
women in divorce, I can testify that domestic violence ensnares women
of all backgrounds and that psychological abuse and controlling behaviors
are often the root cause of many divorces.
I tell my clients that abusers can’t be reformed. Dominance is slow
and insidious. Abuse creates self-doubt, weakness, shame and at some point,
out of disorientation and fear, a self-imposed prison.
The use of mediation in abusive divorce situations gives strength to the
abused, provides a worthy opponent (mediator) for the abuser, and the
opportunity to peel back the psychological layers of abuse in a supportive
environment, helping the abused gain freedom.
LOIS BRENNER, NEW YORK
The writer is the author of “Getting Your Share,” a divorce book for women.