As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I receive many
calls from spouses who talk about their marriages that are filled with
drama, hostility, verbal abuse, and high intensity.
When I hear some of these descriptions, I often recognize there is more
going on than just poor communication. These are often signs that one
spouse has some type of personality disorder.
There are several types of personality disorders and they range from:
- antisocial;
- borderline;
- narcissistic;
- obsessive compulsive; and
- paranoid; to name just a few.
Here are 5 signs that your spouse may have a personality disorder:
- Walking On Eggshells.
Do you find yourself walking on eggshells; trying to avoid anything that
will trigger your spouse? You probably have become good at reading your
spouses’ mood and can gauge if it’s going to be a good day
or a bad one. You are probably grateful when he/is are not around so you
can have some peace and quiet.
- Manipulative Behavior.
The truth is constantly twisted. Do you feel abused or manipulated? Are
you being isolated from friends and family? Verbally assaulted? Are you
coerced sexually? Are you a victim of gaslighting?
- Living in Chaos.
Is the amount of stress generated in your home over the top and unnecessary?
Does your spouse seem to thrive in this type of environment? When there
is little or no chaos, do they try to create it? Is peace possible only
when your spouse gets their way?
- It’s All About Them.
It’s always about what they think, or how they feel. The only time
it’s about you is when they accuse you of something or blame you.
They are ALWAYS right! It is not possible to have true intimacy with your spouse.
- Jeykll and Mr. Hyde.
There is the version of your spouse that friends know, and then there is
the spouse you know at home. They like impressing others with their vivacious
personality, but behind closed doors, the mask comes off, and the ugly
side emerges.
Some spouses have expressed they feel crazy because they just don’t
know what is going on. They feel scared, confused, and doesn’t know
what to do.
It is not always easy to remain married to someone with a personality disorder.
They tend to destroy everything around them. You are not in a healthy
marriage. You are in an inequitable partnership. If you are living in
a marriage with a spouse exhibiting these behaviors ,you may want to consider
having a consultation with a therapist and a divorce attorney.
Don’t be held hostage in this type of relationship.
You deserve to feel mentally healthy and happy.
It is possible to move out of this type of marriage. As a psychologically-trained
divorce attorney and mediator, I can guide you towards a divorce process
that will successfully address these delicate mental health issues. I
am uniquely equipped to provide you with valuable insight and solutions
to dissolve this dysfunctional marriage.
I know you are scared, but you are not alone. Take this first step, and call me.
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I hope to hear from you.
Stay Healthy & Safety!
Warm regards,
Lois
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