It is not unusual for a wife to all of a sudden hear from her husband that
he wants a divorce.
There can be a lot of factors influencing a partner to come to this decision;
another woman, a midlife crisis; and sometimes financial difficulties.
Struggling relationships often end in divorce because the couple has stopped
trying, and drifted apart. Feelings are ignored and more often than not,
one spouse wants to stay, while the other spouse wants to go. They have
become disconnected emotionally and physically.
Every person who is contemplating divorce struggles with the question of
whether or not divorce is the right decision.
I tell couples to talk about divorce in detail before ending their marriage.
When a husband decides to end a marriage they have often made this decision
in response to their needs not being met, a breakdown in communication,
or simply not wanting to be married any longer.
Once a couple have had this conversation, It’s very important to
get the proper guidance.
My role as a divorce attorney and mediator is to be a supportive ally in
a difficult transition. I can pave the path to productive discussions
amidst a flurry of very high emotions.
- Speak with a divorce attorney/mediator. Find out what your rights are,
and what you are entitled to;
- Consider mediation. Mediation is less stressful, more manageable, amicable,
cost-effective and less time consuming;
- Don’t rehash the past or obsess on having to know “Why”.
Divorce is about moving forward with knowledge and dignity. Knowing “why”
will not make the process any easier;
- Manage your emotions! They will range from sadness to anger, to wanting
revenge. It’s okay to feel all those emotions.
- Don’t try to hold on to someone who wants out, even though it’s
scarey. You don’t need to spend the rest of your life with someone
who doesn’t want you. You deserve much better!
- Start pulling together the important information you will need:tax documents,
investment statements, W-2’s, property deeds, life insurance policies,
- BREATHE! This is going to be a challenging process. Reach out to family
and friends for support. Consider seeing a therapist, and don’t
be afraid to ask for help
Don’t be afraid!I know you must be surprised to hear your spouse
wants a divorce, but you are not alone, and I’m here to help.
I would be happy to speak with you alone or with you and your spouse to
explain the many benefits of mediation.
Mediation is a family-friendly approach to divorce.Remember, divorce doesn’t
have to be excruciatingly painful.
Having served NYC for over 35 years as a divorce attorney and mediator,
I can tell you a divorce with dignity is possible. Mediation is the answer.
Call me now to find out all the details
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