It's a big decision. You've been thinking about it for a long time.
Should I? Shouldn't I? Yes, I really should. But what will it mean?
How do I tell my spouse? These are the questions I often hear from people
who consult with me.
Usually they know, deep down, that it's the right decision. But they
wonder what it will entail. Will it be met with opposition? Crying? Arguments?
Whatever the reaction, it will not be a happy occasion.
On the other hand, continuing in a life of marital unhappiness is a longer
period of dissatisfaction.
As a divorce lawyer, and psychologically-trained mediator I help alleviate
the anxiety by explaining to a spouse during a consultation what the likely
outcome of the process will be.
I tell a spouse what to expect. How will property be divided. Will there
be spousal and/or child support? What are the probable amounts and for
how long? Knowing the reality can ease the uncertainty and help prepare
for the events to come.
I share ideas on how to tell your spouse, sometimes suggesting a therapy
session so a third person is present. How do you broach the subject without
blaming your spouse and making them defensive? How will you tell your children?
Usually the dissatisfaction has been building up and increasing over a
long period of time. There are better ways of handling and initiating
Or maybe the divorce process needs to start with a postnuptial agreement.
I can answer all of these questions for you!
If you are struggling with this decision, I can help you. It usually revolves
around basic personality and character differences that may not be resolved.
As a divorce attorney and medically trained professional, I can point out
these issues to make it easier for you to decide what to do and how to do it!
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