Lois M. Brenner, Esq.

During this financially challenging time, don't delay your divorce.
We are offering
FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS!

Free Phone Consultation!

Call Now to Speak with Lois Brenner

646.663.4546
  • Home
  • Meet Lois Brenner
  • Divorce
  • Divorce Mediation
  • Psychology of Divorce
  • Testimonials
  • Blog
  • Contact Us
  • Call Today
  • Email Us
  • Our Map
  • Menu
    Home
    Meet Lois Brenner
    Divorce
    Divorce Mediation
    Psychology of Divorce
    Testimonials
    Case Studies
    FAQ
    Blog
    Case Evaluation
    Contact Us
    Site Map
  • Asset Allocation
  • Business Partnerships
  • Child Custody
  • Child Support
  • Contested Divorce
  • Divorce Litigation
  • Domestic Partnerships
  • Divorce Process
  • Domestic Violence & Abuse
  • Equitable Distribution
  • Estate Planning & Divorce
  • Family Law
  • Fathers' Rights
  • Grandparents' Rights
  • Health Insurance
  • High Net Worth Divorce
  • Life Insurance
  • Matrimonial Law
  • Military Divorce
  • Pensions
  • Prenuptial Agreements
  • Postnuptial Agreements
  • Separation Agreements
  • Taxes
  • Uncontested Divorce
  • Visitation
  • Women's Rights
man and child

New York Divorce Blog

Blog 2020 May How are You Handling Your Marital Issues During this Pandemic?
Previous Post  |  Next Post

How are You Handling Your Marital Issues During this Pandemic?

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. || 11-May-2020

With social distancing our “new normal” and many states maintaining a shelter-in-place mandate, unhappy couples are stuck at home with no escape. With school cancelled, no babysitters to help, working at home, caring for children and trying to manage relationships which for some were already shaky, couples are really being challenged and asking for help.

As a result, in quarantine couples are arguing a lot more.

Why so explosive?

  1. No outside distractions like going to work, the gym, or having dinner with friends;
  2. Boredom: more drinking, doing drugs, watching porn;
  3. Couples’ differing opinions on the seriousness and handling of coronavirus;
  4. Existing marital issues escalating;
  5. Heightening mental health issues.

My suggestions?

Communicate:

It’s normal to feel overwhelmed and hard to absorb everything that is going on. I suggest talking to each other, but trying not to argue. Stay away from your “trigger” subjects even this will be hard. Discuss some privacy boundaries. Provide each other with some alone time in quarantine. Give each other some space.

Many people are overdoing it right now with drinking and using drugs, to cope with fear and anxiety. People are trying desperately to manage boredom, fear, and depression. Relying on alcohol and drugs is not the answer to coping with stress.

If you feel like you or your spouse are drinking or overdoing it with drugs, feeling depressed or anxious, please reach out to your primary care doctor or a psychiatrist to see if being prescribed some medication short term to manage your stress could help.

In addition to being a divorce attorney I am a licensed medical professional and I can tell you getting some interim medication to help with your stress is better than struggling without professional help.

Also try some healthy coping skills. Exercise is great!

I am working virtually with a gifted trainer myself. It really helps! Do some breathing exercises, try mediation, take a walk, (adhering to social distancing), create a daily schedule and limit how much news you watch, and definitely don’t watch the news before going to bed. For example try Yoga and Pilates online, or watching the daily Met Opera streaming broadcasts. There are many apps online to help you with these tasks.

Handle Childcare Together:

Sit down and discuss sharing the management of the children. Divide the responsibilities. Discuss who is going to supervise the on-line learning, oversee the child’s schedule, help with exercise. It’s time to implement “survival mode” to keep the children safe and happy regardless of what you are going through as a couple.

Talk Peacefully About Separation/Divorce:

For those of you who were already talking about divorce, continue talking. If it’s possible to work out some details in civil conversation, do so. You have time to think through what you both want. If you have children in the house, speak privately, if possible. It’s a time for safety and peace.

If divorce has been in the air for you as a couple and If it is not amicable, then try to maintain some space from each other during this time. Now is not the time to have heated arguments in close quarters. Arguments can also escalate in to physical violence.

If you must engage with each other try emailing or texting each other. Deal with your issues, but not face to face to help keep things from getting out of hand. If all else fails speak virtually with a therapist or marriage counselor.

For those of you needing immediate divorce assistance consider mediation. It’s a good place to start talking about divorce and you don’t need to go to court. Mediation gives you a third party to spearhead discussion and help you make decisions.

It’s important to remember we are all experiencing a major change in our lives and juggling unusual schedules. There is a lot of uncertainty but this too shall pass. Remember, we are all in this together. The whole earth is trying to cope. You are not alone. Don’t be afraid to reach out for some help!

As a medicially-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I am available to answer your questions and address all your concerns.

If you are having marital difficulties and thinking of divorce call me.

During the ongoing COVID-19 Pandemic all our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are conveniently conducted virtually by telephone or TeleDivorce by Zoom or Skype to reduce risk and maintain safety for everyone!

I hope to hear from you.

Stay Healthy & Safety!

Warm regards,

Lois

Call New York Divorce Attorney Lois Brenner right now to schedule your free consultation! 212.734.1551

Categories: Divorce, Divorce Mediation, Psychology, Mental Health

Share Post

Rely on Lois Brenner

Call us at 646.663.4546 to talk with Lois Brenner and obtain the legal counsel you need.

Send Us Your Case Now
  • “You are truly the best divorce attorney in New York!”

    - Christine

  • map pin
  • “Thank you for doing such a tremendous job!”

    - Bill

  • map pin
  • “Thank You, Thank You, Thank You!”

    - Sara and Jeff

  • map pin
  • “I didn’t expect to find a divorce attorney as amazing as you!”

    - Deborah

  • map pin
  • “Keep up the good work!”

    - Jonathan

  • map pin
  • “First, you were so easy to talk to and second, you really know what you are doing!”

    - Sharon

  • map pin
Read All Reviews
  • facebook
  • twitter
  • google-plus
  • linkedin-2

Lois M. Brenner, Esq.

Lois M. Brenner, Esq. New York Divorce Attorney 12 East 86th St,
Suite 1230,
New York, NY 10028

View Map

(646) 663-4546


divorcelawyerny.com
  • Home
  • Site Map
  • Privacy Policy
  • Contact Us
Internet Marketing Experts