Even though things are getting better, we are still battling the coronavirus.
During the last year, I received many calls from spouses who discovered
their spouses were cheating during the pandemic. Even with a medical crisis,
cheating spouses did not slow down!
I recently received a call from a woman who had just discovered her husband
was having multiple affairs over the last 7 months. She was shocked, scared,
and desperate to protect herself and her family.
She suspected her husband was spending too much time with his so called
“coworkers.”. He would disappear into the other room for hours
at a time in the evening. He was spending less time with her and their
She decided to read his emails, look at some of his texts, and check his
social media platforms. She saw interactions with two women in particular
that were not work related and the conversations quite suggestive. She
confronted him and he admitted what he had done. He also begged her not
to break up the family.
She was really angry and reached out to a few friends. Her childhood friend
had read some of my blog postings about cheating and suggested she give
me a call.
She was very hurt, sad, and still loved her husband and wanted to keep
their family together. She was having a very hard time processing everything,
especially with the health crisis going on.
She was really taken back by her husband’s behavior and shocked her
husband would do this. First, we discussed the divorce laws in New York
and how they applied to their property, assets, and spousal and child
support. I explained the likely outcome and what she would be entitled
to in a divorce.
We further discussed all her options: do nothing right now, try couples
counseling and therapy, consider a separation, or get a divorce. None
of these felt right to her.
Then I mentioned the possibility of preparing a postnuptial agreement.
This would allow her to remain married at least for the time being. It
would provide her the opportunity to plan for a divorce in the future,
while securing a good potential settlement while continuing to be married.
She was surprised and pleased that she had this option. This is a tool
I suggest and use for many couples who find themselves in this unfortunate position.
A postnuptial agreement prevents couples from making a hasty decision before
they have had time to consider their options. It provides peace of mind
and time for emotions to calm so important life decisions can be made.
A postnuptial agreement, in the case of this client, will provide her with
financial protection if a divorce does occur. In addition, we will build
into her agreement, per her request, consequences, if future infidelity
does occur in their marriage.
No two postnuptial agreements are alike. Postnuptial agreements are tailored
to meet the individual needs of every couple.
We did draft a postnuptial agreement, and her husband, who promised not
to cheat anymore, signed it.
For now things seem to have settled down and they are working on their marriage!
As a divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I have drafted many
postnuptial agreements. If you find yourself in a similar predicament,
I can help you craft a postnuptial agreement to both protect yourself
and give you the time to save your marriage or consider your divorce alternatives.
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I look forward to helping you.
Stay healthy and safe!
New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner can draft a postnuptial agreement
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