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Dads Are Much More Than Just Child Support Payments!

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When a married couple goes through a divorce, one of the most contested issues is often their children.

As a psychologically-trained mediator and divorce attorney for more than 35 years, I’ve seen countless custody disputes. For many years, courts ruled in favor of the mother as the parent who retained full custody of the children while leaving a lot of good fathers with the short end of the stick.

In those cases, the ones that suffered the most were the children, who needed and deserved the love and support of both parents.

In recent years, because of the changing family dynamic where both parents are often in the work force full-time, and because the contributions of fathers are becoming more appreciated, the legal system has started to give fathers joint or even full custody. But many dads are not aware of this and have little knowledge of their parental rights.

What’s a father to do?

First, it’s a good idea to be aware of what the word “custody” actually means. Custody is not necessarily about the physical location where the children live, it’s about the right to make major decisions on such things as:

• Where the kids will go to school

• The religion of the children

• The medical care the children will receive

For fathers who want shared custody of the children (and this goes for mothers as well), it’s better not to fight about it through the legal system. The best thing you can do is use the skills of a professional mediator as well as a therapist who will talk you and your soon-to-be former spouse through the logistics of making decisions and compromises where there are no losers—especially not the children.

Fighting through the legal system is messy, expensive, and unpredictable, and during this pandemic not easily accessible. Judges can make decisions about the future of your children without having all of the facts or a true understanding of the psychological dynamics.

Additionally, fathers going through a divorce have not only the right, but the responsibility to make sure they are able to preserve and nurture a healthy relationship with their children.

Divorce is a life-changing event and a dad can better prepare his children for this by speaking to a therapist. By seeing a professional counselor, fathers can examine issues surrounding their children who will need extra emotional support during and after a divorce. The age of the children at the time of the divorce is also a crucial factor.

There are numerous self-help and legal books including mine, Getting Your Share… which can help fathers learn more about their parental rights and prepare them and their children for what lies ahead during a divorce.

As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator helping families successfully for over 35 years, I can help you and your family with creative parenting agreements that will keep you out of court and your children happy too.

Consider my unique mediation process. Let me help keep your family happy and whole. Call me to hear all the details.

Our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are very informative and conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk!

I look forward to speaking with you.

Continue to stay healthy and safe!

Warm regards,

Lois

If you are a dad and want to know your rights call Attorney Lois Brenner now to schedule your FREE consultation!

212.734.1551

Immediate consultations are available upon your request.

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