The answer is, “No!”
I tell clients never to leave their home (or hardly ever). Making this
move can work against you when divorcing if not properly strategized.
I often hear from clients that once divorce is on the table it is extremely
difficult to live together. Especially with warring spouses forced to
spend more time at home due to the pandemic. Of course it is difficult!
Who wants to smile over coffee, and pretend everything is okay? But thinking
about divorce is no reason to make a quick, rash decision and leave your
home. This impulsive decision can greatly impact your divorce process
and settlement. Moving out can cause you to lose your leverage.
When having a consultation with an angry or scared spouse I always suggest
they stay put unless they are in physical or emotional danger.
Here are 4 moving tips to consider:
- If you move out, it can be considered abandonment, Seek guidance from an
attorney/mediator before leaving the marital residence. It is also difficult
to make arrangements for child visitation once you are living apart.
- Think about how the bills will be paid, both for the marital residence,
as well as the new residence. Moving out causes you to have to deal with
managing bills much sooner. Physical separation does not make you exempt
from paying bills. Think before you move. Talk to a lawyer/mediator before
you suggest your own settlement. People make big mistakes in negotiating
directly with a spouse before talking to a lawyer.
- If there is a physical threat of violence in your marriage, consider leaving
the home and obtaining an Order of Protection; This legally documents
the decision to leave the home was based on safety. Ask your attorney
how to do this and what is required.
- If you are not sure if a separation will lead to a divorce consider having
a separation agreement drafted and outline the living arrangements and
the financial responsibilities. You could also have a postnuptial agreement
drafted. Consider mediation if moving out is really important; this process
takes less time and moving out of the marital residence can be rationally
discussed and planned in a mediation session.
Please make an informed decision before taking that step out your front
door. Leaving your home is an important move and can have long-lasting
As a divorce attorney/mediator preparing clients properly and carefully
for divorce is always my priority.
Leaving the marital residence is just one important component of a complex,
emotionally driven process.
Preparation for divorce is key. Making the right decisions will help you
minimize legal complications and reduce emotional pain.
Call me first! I can help you! Let’s talk and work out the details.
Strategy is needed!
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Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner before you move out of your home!!
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