Since I have been practicing over 35 years as a divorce attorney and mediator,
I have had an amazing array of clients, and most recently from internet
influencers to IT gurus. Regardless of a client’s position in life,
the 3 P’s of Mediation are appealing to all - Positive, Productive,
About 7 months ago an internet influencer contacted me for a consultation.
He and his wife had been married 4 years, had 1 child and lived both in
New York and Atlanta.
His wife was a podcast producer, and her husband was fed-up with what he
called her "hoarding issues." She was obsessed during the pandemic,
ordering all kinds of things they didn’t need and storing them in
two of their bedrooms. Not only was she wasting money and running up debts,
but creating a safety hazard.
They were in a lot of debt, totaling $125,000. He felt she was irresponsible
and had spoken with her many times. They even tried a therapist and nothing
was working. He felt he couldn’t stay married anymore.
As is standard in these cases, the wife initially wanted to hire a lawyer.
The husband was fascinated by what he had heard about my unique meditation
process, and called me. After our conversation, he was eager to share
my mediation process with her, and she agreed to try mediation.
Honestly, at first I wasn’t sure mediation would work for them. They
were fighting a lot. During our virtual meetings, I really had to keep
them focused. The wife was super angry, especially because she thought
he wanted to date a woman he was working with and blamed her excessive
shopping and hoarding on him.
She shared her suspicion with me during one of our individual mediation
sessions. It turned out her financial recklessness really had worn on
the husband, he had no interest in dating his co-worker and he wouldn’t
stay in this marriage anymore. This deterioration had been going on for
two years of their marriage.
As the divorce continued, they settled into the rhythm of my mediation
process, the anger subsided and they were able to engage in productive
conversations and make thoughtful decisions.
The husband was fair, and agreed to help with the debts although his wife
had generated most of the debt.
It was important for them to consider mediation for many reasons but, in
particular, it helped them keep their privacy while divorcing which could
have affected his public persona and livelihood if they had litigated
The final outcome was good. The split of the assets was equitable. The
management of the debts was fair. The custody, support and visitation
with their child was decided on thoughtfully.
There is life after divorce. The path you choose to get there can make
all the difference!
If you are thinking of divorce and have questions about mediation and
how it can help you, call me. We can explore together what is possible.
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