Getting divorced has been the last thing spouses have wanted to think about
in this past year in the midst of losing jobs, facing illness, stock markets
fluctuating, routines being disrupted and deciding on how to school your
But don’t let the coronavirus stop you!
For couples struggling in emotionally challenging and unhappy relationships,
divorce should be front and center! So how do you start a divorce process
with so much uncertainty about the future?
I explain to my clients that there are ways to divorce as we all adapt
to the new form of “normal.” In the divorce arena that means
courts are adjusting and changing how filings and proceedings are handled.
Court appearances/meetings are handled virtually and telephonically.
While we may be living in an emotionally charged and upsetting time I say,
”Focus on what you can control.” If that means releasing yourself
from a relationship that no longer serves you or makes you happy, let
it go!” There is no need to be confused about how to do it. You
can take the steps necessary to end your marriage right now!
Here are my 5 tips to peacefully prepare to end your unhappy marriage:
1. Research Your Divorce Options:
To mediate or litigate? How do you decide? It will depend on how well you
and your spouse can communicate. If discussion is possible, then mediation
is possible. Mediation will give you both an opportunity to have a rational
conversation with the guidance of a mediator. It’s peaceful, less
expensive and not as time intensive as litigating. If litigation is your
path because communication is next to impossible, then you will each hire
an attorney. This process is more expensive, and will most likely be combative
and time consuming. No matter the path, pick your lane and pursue your
2. Create a Budget:
It’s important to do an analysis of your lifestyle. You want to understand
how much money you will need to cover your living expenses. While still
spending time at home, review your checking account and credit card bills.
Having this financial picture will help you determine how much money you
will need post-divorce.
3. Consider Your Living Arrangements:
Think about how your living arrangements will change. What will your options
be based upon your budget. Can you stay in the marital residence? Will
you have to move out? What can you afford? Should you try to stay in the
same neighborhood where your children are residing?
4. Discuss a Parenting Plan:
Having a co-parenting plan is critical. Start thinking about it now! This
pandemic requires careful consideration especially for safety purposes.
Living and travel arrangements should be discussed in detail.
5. Understand Divorce Logistics:
Beginning a divorce process during a pandemic looks different. You may
still be meeting with your attorney/mediator virtually.
With some people still spending time at home, having privacy to consult
with an attorney/mediator is a big challenge. However, it is possible.
It just takes some coordination of schedules. A lot of clients make arrangements
to consult with me by leaving their home for a specific amount of time to do so.
If you want a divorce right now, don’t let the coronavirus stop you.
Yes, there are some challenges, but consider for now, this is our “new
Staying in an unhappy marriage is painful. You can let go of the pain and
move forward with your new life by taking a few important steps.
As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator, I have been
successfully guiding and helping couples over the last year during this
pandemic to engage in productive discussions, and make life-changing decisions.
The first step is to pick up the phone and call me. I will answer all your
questions and guide you. You don’t have to put your happiness on
hold. I’m here to help!
FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS
are conveniently conducted virtually to continue to reduce risk.
I look forward to educating you on the divorce process. I promise your
first step will be liberating.
Call me today!
Stay healthy & safe!
New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner is available for a FREE consultation
regarding your divorce right now!
We still have some appointments available this week. Call 212.734.1551.
Don’t wait, call today!