It is not unusual for a spouse to hear with no warning from the other that
they want a divorce. This is especially true during and after the holidays.
There can be a lot of factors influencing a partner to come to this decision.
It could be another woman or man, a midlife crisis, psychological issues,
or financial difficulties, especially during this never-ending pandemic.
Struggling relationships often end in divorce because the couple has stopped
trying and drifted apart. Feelings are ignored and more often than not,
one spouse wants to stay, while the other spouse wants to go.
Couples have become disconnected emotionally and physically. Most people
who are contemplating divorce struggle with the question as to whether
or not divorce is the right decision.
I tell couples during my divorce mediation process to talk about divorce
in detail before ending their marriage.
When a spouse decides to end a marriage they have often made this decision
in response to their needs not being met, a breakdown in communication,
or simply not wanting to be married any longer.
Once you have the “divorce conversation,” it’s very important
to get the proper guidance and professionals to support you.
My role as a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator is to
be supportive in a sad and difficult transition. I can pave the path to
productive discussions amidst a flurry of very high emotions. I can help
you find your “voice of reason” so that decisions are made
in your best interest.
Here are 6 Tips to Get You on the Right Path to Your Divorce:
1. Speak with a divorce attorney/mediator. Find out what your rights are,
and what you are entitled to;
2. Consider mediation - mediation is less stressful, not adversarial, more
manageable, amicable, cost effective and less time consuming;
3. Don’t rehash the past or obsess about having to know “why”.
Divorce is about moving forward with knowledge and dignity. Knowing “why”
will not make the process itself any easier;
4. Acknowledge your emotions! They will range from tears, to anger, to
wanting revenge. It’s okay to feel sad and hurt!;
5. Don’t try to hold on to someone who wants out. You don’t
need to spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn’t want
to be with you. You deserve much better!;
6. Start pulling together the important information you will need: tax
documents, investment statements, W-2’s, property titles, life insurance
policies, and pension plans. Don’t forget to take a look at your
expenses and start developing a budget.
If your spouse wants a divorce, I would be happy to speak with you both
to explain the mediation process.
Mediation is a family and financially friendly approach to divorce. Divorce
doesn’t have to be so painful, divisive or expensive!
Having successfully served NYC for over 35 years as an experienced New
York divorce attorney and medically-trained mediator, I can tell you a
divorce with dignity is possible.
Mediation is amicable, less expensive and can be processed in less time.
Call me to schedule a free discreet consultation. 212.734.1551.
FREE CONSULTATIONS are conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk.
I look forward to speaking with you and your spouse!
Stay healthy and safe!
New York Divorce Attorney Lois Brenner is available to help you with your divorce!
Lois Brenner’s divorce mediation process really works!
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