If your spouse just told you they want a divorce, breathe! Know that you
will be okay and I’m here to help!
My role as a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator is to
be supportive in a sad and difficult transition. I can pave the path to
productive discussions amidst a flurry of very high emotions. I can help
you find your “voice of reason” so that decisions are made
in your best interest.
It is not unusual for a spouse to hear with no warning from the other that
they want a divorce.
There can be a lot of factors influencing a partner to come to this decision.
It could be another woman or man, a midlife crisis, psychological issues
or financial difficulties.
Struggling relationships often end in divorce because the couple has stopped
trying and drifted apart. Feelings are ignored and more often than not,
one spouse wants to stay, while the other spouse wants to go.
Couples over the last two years have become disconnected emotionally and
physically. Most people who are contemplating divorce struggle with the
question as to whether or not divorce is the right decision.
I encourage couples to talk about divorce in detail before ending their marriage.
When a spouse decides to end a marriage they have often made this decision
in response to their needs not being met, a breakdown in communication,
or simply not wanting to be married any longer.
Once you have the “divorce conversation”, it’s very important
to get the proper guidance and professionals to support you.
Here are 7 Tips to Get You on the Right Path to Your Divorce:
1. Speak with a divorce attorney/mediator. Find out what your rights are,
and what you are entitled to;
2. Consider mediation - mediation is less stressful, not adversarial, more
manageable, amicable, cost effective and less time consuming; and if you
still have the luxury of some form of civil conversation, mediation is
a much better option than fighting in court and causing more pain in the family.
3. Don’t rehash the past or obsess about having to know “why”.
Divorce is about moving forward with knowledge and dignity. Knowing “why”
will not make the process itself any easier;
4. Acknowledge your emotions! They will range from tears to anger, to wanting
revenge. It’s okay to feel sad and hurt!;
5. Don’t try to stay tied to a marriage where you are not wanted.
You don’t need to spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn’t
love you or want to be with you. I know this is difficult.
6. Start pulling together the important information you will need: tax
documents, investment statements, W-2’s, property titles, life insurance
policies, and pension statements. Don’t forget to take a look at
your expenses and start developing a budget.
7. Surround yourself with those who love you! Divorce is a challenging
journey. Reach out to family and friends for support. Consider seeing
a therapist, and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
If your spouse has just told you they want a divorce, call me. I will be
happy to speak with you to explain the many benefits of mediation.
Mediation is a family and financially friendly approach to divorce. Divorce
doesn’t have to be more painful, divisive or expensive!
If we determine during our conversation that litigation will be the only
path given the complex dynamics of your marriage, I will introduce you
to my highly skilled litigation team to explore the best legal strategies
for you and your family.
Having successfully served NYC for more than 35 years as an experienced
New York divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator, I can
tell you a divorce with less pain is possible.
Call me to schedule a free discreet consultation. 212.734.1551.
FREE CONSULTATIONS are
conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk.
I look forward to speaking with you!
Stay healthy and safe!
New York Divorce Attorney Lois Brenner is available to help you with your divorce!
Please call to schedule your FREE consultation now.
We can book a consultation for you immediately!