As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator, I hear all
kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these
stories monthly with you.
Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect my
clients. The purpose of sharing these divorce stories with you is to let
you know, you are not alone. There are peaceful, rational solutions available to you.
You really can have a happily-ever-after.
Jing and Fin were married for 4 years. They had a 5-month-old son. They
were both professionals. He was a high level marketer, she a dermatologist.
They lived in a condo on the upper eastside in Manhattan. When I received
a phone call from Jing she and her son were staying at her moms because
she had left the marital residence. She was very emotional and started
telling me her horror story.
Her husband was constantly screaming at her while she was holding the baby,
and belittling her about how she was caring for their son. He insisted
on creating her breastfeeding schedule and telling her when she could
and couldn’t pick the baby up if he cried. He was constantly telling
her she was a bad mom, and calling her fat because she had not lost all
the baby weight she had gained.
I realized early on in our conversation Jing was being abused and controlled
by her husband. This type of phone call for me is not unusual. Unfortunately,
many women find themselves in these unhealthy and painful relationships.
As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, helping a spouse
and identifying the psychological issues affecting the marriage is as
important as the legal strategy for a successful outcome.
Jing further explained to me that they owned a condo together valued at
$19.2 million and her husband invested in her dermatology practice in
midtown Manhattan. They had both joint and separate assets as well as
retirement funds valued at over 30 million dollars and owned a vacation
villa in Bermuda.
Jing wanted sole custody of the baby since she feared her husband was too
volatile to properly care for him. She also shared with me he had expressed
many times that he did not want the baby. She actually felt he was jealous
of the baby and resented him.
We discussed mediation vs. litigation. I explained the differences and
suggested an amicable approach first.
She agreed and I invited her husband by email to contact me to discuss
their marital issues and to explain how mediation could help.
Fin did call me and they successfully completed the mediation process 9
months ago and are divorced now.
During the mediation process Jing and Fin agreed to work with a psychologist
from my team of experts who helped Fin get a handle on his anger issues
so he could spend time with his son.
If this sounds like you, please know that discussion, compassion, negotiation,
and solid legal guidance can solve your divorce problems. The untapped
magic of mediation can really help.
If you would like to share your story with me, call me. I will give you
common sense answers to all your divorce questions. I will help you, as
I did with Jing and her family, to find a silver lining, using my success
divorce mediation method so you can move on with your life.
FREECONSULTATIONS are conducted virtually to reduce risk.
I look forward to hearing your story, and helping you find the best possible solution.
Stay healthy and safe!
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