When a divorce occurs it not only affects the spouses but the entire family.
For both parents and children during and after a divorce, maintaining
healthy relationships with your children is a must. Visitation unfortunately,
is very often a sad source of conflict.
As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator for over 35
years, I always tell spouses to put their child first. I tell them not
to funnel their anger for their spouse through their child. It’s
destructive and unfair. It is their job as a parent to make visitation
with the other parent seamless in order to help their child through a
difficult transition. The first step is for both parents to accept and
acknowledge their children will have two homes. Each place should be as
safe and comfortable as possible.
Here are my 10 successful tips:
- Treat your former spouse with respect, especially in front of your children;
- Create routines that provide them with safety and security;
- Be understanding and flexible with your visitation schedules;
- Maintain open lines of communication with your ex-spouse;
- Parents should discuss rules and discipline with each other so you can
both be consistent;
- Make sure your child has a special space of their own within your home;
- Spend individual time with each of your children;
- Encourage visitation with grandparents and former family members;
- Help your children make friends in your neighborhood so they have full,
- Make visitation a normal and fun part of life!
It’s really important to put your feelings of anger aside for the
sake of your child.
I know it’s difficult, but it is necessary for the happiness of your
child. Divorce hurts and saddens children. Don’t add to that pain
by acting out against your former spouse. You are the adult. It’s
time to act like one!
It’s good idea to be supportive of your children as they prepare
for their visit with the other parent. Children need to know it’s
okay to love mom & dad! Please don’t misbehave during the exchange.
That only sets the tone for sadness during a visit.
Try to be on time. Let your former spouse know if you are running late.
Give ample notice if a visitation date or time needs to change. Keep your
former spouse in the loop about happenings at school and all medical updates.
Keep each other aware of changes in phone numbers, email addresses and
home and work addresses.
All of these visitation tips helps your child have a supportive relationship
with both parents. The best way to support your child during and after
a divorce is with love and encouragement. Show them they can love you
both. This will be the very best gift your can give your child during
and after your divorce!
There is no easy path to divorce or visitation with your children but there
are some effective solutions. Call me because I have some successful suggestions for you!
As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I can help.
If you are having arguments over visitation I can guide you, help you
with constructive conversations and effective decisions. I can also share
with you the power of my mediation methods that are very effective in
handling issues with visitation.
All our FREE 1-HOUR CONSULTATIONS arediscreetly and conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk.
I look forward to helping you with all your visitation problems.
Stay healthy and safe!!
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