Since I have been practicing over 35 years as a psychologically trained
divorce attorney and mediator, I have had an impressive array of clients
from IT specialists to social media influencers. Regardless of a client’s
position in life, the 3 P’s of Mediation are appealing to all—Positive,
Productive and Peaceful.
About a year ago, an up and coming social media influencer contacted me
for a consultation. He and his wife had been married 8 years, had 3 children
and lived both in New York and South Carolina.
His wife was a hair stylist, and her husband was fed-up with what he called
her "financial excesses." She spent a lot of money on designer
clothes for the children and had redecorated their family home 5 times
in 8 years. Although he was finally becoming a successful influencer,
he couldn’t afford the lifestyle she had created.
They were in $115,000 in debt, their children were being spoiled and, as
a family, they were very unhappy. He felt she was irresponsible and had
spoken with her many times. They even tried a therapist and nothing was
working. He felt he couldn’t stay married any more, and he told her.
As is standard in these cases, the wife initially wanted to hire a lawyer.
The husband was fascinated by what he had heard about my unique psychologically
based meditation method, and called me. After our conversation, he was
eager to share the mediation process with her.
Honestly, at first I wasn’t sure mediation would work for them. They
were fighting a lot. During our virtual meetings, I really had to keep
them focused once she agreed to try mediation.
The wife was super angry, especially because she felt her husband wanted
out of the marriage because he had let fame go to his head. As it turned
out, it was her financial recklessness that had really worn on him and
he wouldn’t stay in this marriage anymore. This deterioration had
been going on for quite some time. They had grown apart way before his
success/fame. Her compulsive need to shop that had put them in debt had
really gotten to him.
As the divorce process continued, they settled in to the rhythm of my mediation
process, the anger subsided and they were able to engage in productive
conversations and make thoughtful decisions.
The husband was fair and agreed to help with the debts although his wife
had generated most of the debt.
It was important for them to consider mediation for many reasons but in
particular it helped them keep their privacy while divorcing, which could
have erupted onto front-page news if they had litigated their matter.
The final outcome was fair. The split of the assets was equitable. The
management of the debts was reasonable. The custody, support and visitation
with the children was decided on thoughtfully.
I’m happy to report this couple has just received their judgment
of divorce and, the family is adjusting to their new lives.
You see, there is life after divorce. The method you choose to get there
can make all the difference! Let me walk you down the best path for you
and your family!
If you are thinking of divorce and have questions about mediation and how
it can help you, call me. We can tackle your divorce together, and I will
explain to you what is possible!
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I look forward to speaking with you.
Call New York Divorce Attorney Lois Brenner to learn more about her unique
and highly successful psychologically based divorce mediation process.
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