I received a phone call a few months ago from a very upset husband asking
for help. Greg shared with me the story of his wife whom he loved very
much but he didn’t know how to help her or what to do. The couple
had been married 16 years and had three children 12, 10, and 8 years old.
His wife had always exhibited signs of paranoia even early on in their
marriage. He admitted he didn’t know what it was at the time. She
was fearful of other people and new environments. She was always thinking
someone was out to get her. The husband admitted he ignored these strange
behaviors because he loved her. He thought somehow if they had children
she would feel more secure and feel better. Of course, that did not happen
and she only grew worse over the years. She had started accusing him of
infidelity and started thinking family members were against her and wouldn’t
let any family visit or help with the children.
He had grown concerned for the well-being of his family and knew he could
no longer ignore these behaviors or stay in this marriage and needed to
protect his children.
He reluctantly and tearfully told me he needed a divorce but also wanted
to help his wife.
As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I advised Greg
on what was possible and assured him we would approach this divorce with
compassion and sensitivity.
I work with spouses all the time in relationships with partners who are
mentally unstable. These are painful marriages filled with sadness, uncertainty,
and sometimes fear.
We see all kinds of people today suffering with mental health issues in
the news, but what is not often discussed is how many marriages are suffering
deeply and eroding from the effects of mental health problems.
I have worked with countless frightened spouses, abused wives, and distraught,
confused husbands. Mental health issues in marriages have been on the
rise and destroying couples and families, especially in the past few years.
Divorce is about people, their psychology and the emotional health of a
couple. The traditional divorce system is an adversarial, lengthy, and
costly process which completely ignores the psychological component of
divorce and is far more interested in conflict and cost.
During over 35 years of practice as a divorce attorney, psychologically-trained
medical professional, and court-appointed mediator, I have heard the cries
of many spouses and developed a psychologically-based divorce process
that is highly effective, whether litigating or mediating, and most importantly, healing.
My divorce method involves behavior modification, the use of psychology
- identifying personality and character traits, emotions, family dynamics,
and skillfully applying the law to develop strategies tailored to each
case for a more productive and positive experience.
Due to my psychological background and legal skills I was able to help
Greg and his wife. His wife is receiving treatment and Greg has custody
of his children right now. We are using my mediation methods to move this
family through the divorce process and are using my team of experts to
provide additional support where needed. We will continue to provide comprehensive
support to Greg and his family as we move them through this difficult
time finding appropriate solutions to dissolve this marriage.
Most attorneys treat divorce as a purely legal (and adversarial) experience.
Because of my background both legally and psychologically,
Divorce is not based solely on the law. It’s about people! That includes
the psychological makeup of both you and your spouse.
I know taking this step won’t be easy, but gaining your freedom and
happiness will be worth it.
Since I am more than a divorce attorney, but also a medical professional,
I am uniquely qualified to provide you with the psychological and legal
guidance necessary to remove yourself safely from the grip of a mentally
unhealthy marriage. Call me now to find out more…
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