Divorce can be a challenging and emotional process for anyone involved.
It is a significant life transition that can leave people feeling overwhelmed,
anxious, and uncertain about their future.
As a skilled, psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I
am equipped to provide the comprehensive support needed to move successfully
through the divorce process.
If you're considering or going through a divorce, it's essential
to have a plan in place to navigate this difficult time. Here are some
of my practical tips to help you survive and thrive during a divorce:
Stay Calm and Focused
Divorce can bring out the worst in people, and it's easy to get caught
up in the emotional rollercoaster. However, it's essential to stay
calm and focused during this time. Try not to let your emotions take over
and cloud your judgment. Keep your end goals in mind and try to approach
the divorce process in a rational and level-headed way.
Organize Your Finances
Divorce can have a significant impact on your finances. Make sure to gather
all financial documents, such as bank statements, tax returns, and investment
accounts, and create a budget for yourself.
Prioritize Your Children
If you have children, their well-being should be a top priority during
the divorce process. Try to minimize the impact on them by keeping them
informed, maintaining a stable routine, and avoiding bad-mouthing your
ex-spouse. Co-parenting can be challenging, but it's essential to
put your children's needs first.
Divorce can be isolating but you don't have to go through it alone.
Seek support from family, friends, or a therapist to help you through
this time. Joining a support group for people going through divorce can
also provide a sense of community and understanding.
Hire a Skilled Divorce Attorney/Mediator
A good divorce attorney/mediator can be your greatest asset during the
divorce process. He or she can help you navigate the legal system and
advocate for your best interests. Research and choose an attorney/mediator
who has experience in divorce and is a good fit for your personality and
Unlike other divorce attorneys, I am also a medical professional who can
provide a psychological approach to divorce. This comprehensive legal/psychological
divorce system provides extensive support for anyone facing divorce.
Be Open to Negotiation
Divorce is often a negotiation process. Be open to compromise and negotiation
to reach a fair and equitable settlement. Be willing to consider your
ex-spouse's perspective and find common ground whenever possible.
Keep Communication Civil
Communicating with your ex-spouse can be challenging, but it's essential
to keep communication civil and respectful. Avoid name-calling, blaming,
or any other behaviors that could escalate the conflict. Instead, try
to approach communication in a neutral and professional manner.
Stay Focused on Your Future
Divorce can be an opportunity for growth and a new beginning. Focus on
your future goals and what you want to achieve after the divorce. Don't
let the past hold you back from moving forward and creating the life you want.
If you are thinking about divorce, you need to be prepared. There are options
to explore. You can mediate, negotiate, or litigate.
If mediation is new to you, it is an effective, cooperative process in
which a neutral third party (me) helps couples reach a fair settlement.
During mediation, I request honesty, promote positive communication, handle
the couples’ expressions of emotion, reinforce positive decisions,
uncover and address the root of underlying issues, and help couples stay
focused on finding solutions and preparing for the future instead of arguing
about the past.
If you are interested in hearing about how this highly successful mediation
method can work for you, give me a call! I will be happy to answer all
your questions about mediation!
Don’t worry, even if you are angry at each other, I can help! You
will be surprised; I am an effective and fair referee!
FREE ONE-HOUR CONSULTATIONS are
conveniently conducted virtually.
Call now to schedule your free consultation. 212.734.1551.
I look forward to working with you, and helping you find productive solutions!
Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner today to schedule your free consultation!