A high profile TikTok influencer called me to ask for my help on how to
tell her spouse she wanted a divorce.
Her husband had grown distant. He was barely holding a job anymore and
spent no time with the children. He was drinking a lot and would disappear
on and off.
She knew she wanted a divorce, but was actually afraid to tell her husband.
She feared he would lose control and be thoroughly unreasonable. She did
not want to have to call the police under any circumstances. She was trying
to avoid a bad confrontation and was paralyzed by the thought.
During our consultation, I advised her to suggest to her husband that they
go to some therapy sessions so the therapist could guide "them"
on how to get along better. By verbally taking responsibility for their
difficulties, and using this approach she was able to convince him to
see a psychiatrist from my panel of experts who often deal with couples
where one of them does not want a divorce. This psychiatrist is really
skilled and offers very effective techniques.
After several sessions with the doctor, she was able to talk to her husband
about divorce in the doctor’s office, in a safe and supportive environment
and convince him that he needed help and that they could divorce amicably.
The doctor also recommended treatment for her husband who suffered from
alcohol addiction, which seemed to be anesthetizing a mental health issue.
Although in my discussions with the wife we went back and forth about litigation
or mediation, since I can perform both, we discussed the pros and cons.
The wife was insistent on introducing mediation to her husband, which
I fully supported.
Instead of going to court and fighting, they both decided to try my psychologically
infused divorce mediation method, a peaceful and non-adversarial system
I have devised with my medical background, using a knowledge of their
personalities and character traits to help them come to a fair agreement
in a secure and thoughtful space.
By engaging in this discreet process, the couple was able to keep their
separation out of the press, maintain their dignity, and arrive at a fair
Their mediation process is completed now and her ex-husband is finally
in a comprehensive treatment program and making great progress.
For more than 35 years as a psychologically trained divorce attorney and
mediator, I’ve been successfully helping spouses have productive
divorce conversations in a safe and supportive environment.
If you are afraid to tell your spouse you want a divorce, give me a call
and I will help you develop a plan to discuss divorce with your spouse.
Take advantage of my free one-hour consultations. These consultations are
really informative, and I will answer all your questions!
All consultations and mediation sessions arestill conveniently available virtually.
I look forward to speaking with you.
Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to learn more and to get
her help on how to tell your spouse you want a divorce.
Schedule your free consultation now! Call 212.734.1551