As a New York divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator, I
hear from a lot of spouses who want a divorce because they have realized
they have been living the horrors of being married to a narcissist or
But there are other personality and mood disorders affecting marriages
today. These include depression and anxiety.
As a medical professional and divorce attorney, I see all of these mental
health issues infecting the fabric of many marriages. Some of these disorders
are less obvious than others, but they disrupt marriages just as profoundly.
Divorce is never an easy decision, and when a spouse is struggling with
depression, it can make the process even more complicated. It's important
to approach the situation with empathy and understanding.
It is sad when mood disorders are ignored and not treated. In addition
to therapy, there are many medications that make an enormous difference
to people who are anxious and/or depressed.
I have treated many depressed patients while working in medical offices,
and I recognize them in my legal practice. If the symptoms were acknowledged,
it might be possible to seek treatment and save the marriage.
Here are some of my suggestions that you may find helpful on how to compassionately
divorce a depressed spouse.
- Seek Professional Help
Before making any decisions, it's important to seek the advice of an
attorney/ mental health professional. Unlike other divorce attorneys,
I am a divorce attorney and a medical professional. I have a comprehensive
and effective approach to divorcing spouses with mental health issues.
Depression is a serious illness that requires proper treatment. I, along
with medical professionals on my divorce team, provide support that can
help your spouse manage their symptoms and navigate the divorce process.
2. Be Empathetic and Understanding
When discussing divorce with your spouse, it's important to approach
the situation with empathy and understanding. Depression can make it difficult
for individuals to process emotions, and your spouse may not react in
the way you expect. Be patient and give them time to process the news.
It's also important to validate their feelings and let them know that
you understand how difficult this is for them.
- Communicate Clearly and Respectfully
Effective communication is key during the divorce process. It's important
to communicate clearly and respectfully with your spouse, even if the
conversation is difficult. Avoid blaming or criticizing your spouse, and
focus on finding solutions that work for both of you. My unique mediation
process is often the perfect vehicle for a compassionate and fully supportive
approach for thoughtful conversations where both parties can safely be
heard, while calmly discussing and negotiating issues.
- Consider the Impact on Children
If you have children, it's important to consider their needs throughout
the divorce process. Children can be deeply affected by divorce, especially
when one parent is struggling with depression. Be open and honest with
your children, and reassure them that both parents love them and will
continue to be a part of their lives.
Don’t suffer in silence. If you or your spouse are dealing with depression
issues in your marriage, there is help.
My mediation process has a unique psychological component. Unlike other
divorce attorneys, because of my medical background, I can identify and
address mood and personality disorders affecting the marriage, and provide
useful tools to help you move through the divorce process more effectively
and with less pain.
My highly successful mediation process will help you divorce with a targeted
psychological approach, if needed, combined with solid legal strategy
to get you the best possible settlement.
Don’t hesitate to call me if you need help.
All our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are still available virtually!
I look forward to speaking with you.
Remember that divorcing a depressed spouse is an emotional process, but
with the right support and guidance, both you and your spouse can move
forward in a healthy and positive way.
Call New York Divorce Attorney Lois Brenner right now to learn how to compassionately
divorce your depressed spouse,
Schedule your free consultation today! Call 212.734.1551.