For more than 35 years, I have successfully served New York as a medically
trained divorce attorney and mediator.
After witnessing the deep pain of many spouses day after day, I decided
to develop a unique divorce mediation process combining psychology and
legal strategy to address not just the legal components of divorce, but
the psychological issues negatively affecting marriages. I created a comprehensive
and emotionally supportive divorce path offering couples a more positive,
productive, and healthy way to divorce!
I say, “Why fight when you can discuss, negotiate, and participate
in a thoughtful and compassionate divorce method?”
There are no losers in mediation; everyone is a winner.
Divorce mediation is an alternative to the traditional legal process of
divorce that can help couples reach a peaceful and fair settlement without
going to court.
During mediation, a neutral third-party mediator assists both parties in
coming to an agreement on the issues that need to be resolved, such as
child custody, property division, and spousal support.
Mediation can be a great option for couples who want to save time, money,
and emotional stress. However, it's important to prepare yourself
and understand the mediation process to ensure a successful outcome.
Here are my 7 tips to help you prepare for a successful divorce mediation process:
1. Understand Your Needs and Interests
Before going into mediation, it's important to understand your own
needs and interests. What are your priorities? What are the issues that
are most important to you? What are your goals for the outcome of the
Knowing your needs and interests will help you communicate effectively
during the mediation process and help you reach an agreement that is in
your best interests.
2. Be Open to Compromise
One of the keys to a successful mediation is being willing to compromise.
Going into mediation with a "win-lose" mindset will only lead
to frustration and may not result in a fair settlement. Be open to exploring
different options and be willing to make concessions in order to reach
a mutually beneficial agreement. Remember that a successful mediation
is one where both parties walk away feeling like each of them have gotten
some of what they wanted and needed.
3. Gather All Necessary Information
It's important to come to mediation with all the necessary information
and documents. This includes financial records, property records, and
any other documents that may be relevant to the issues being discussed.
Having all the necessary information will help you make informed decisions
and ensure that the settlement is fair and equitable.
4. Try to Manage Your Emotions
Divorce can be an emotional and stressful process, but it's important
to keep your emotions in check during mediation. Getting angry or emotional
can derail the process and make it more difficult to reach an agreement.
Mediation is a
problem-solving process and that the goal is to reach a fair and equitable settlement. Focus on
the issues at hand and try to communicate effectively with your spouse.
Remember, put the past in the past. Dwelling in the past will hurt you
in the present.
5. Be Prepared to Compromise on Legal Issues
It's important to understand that the mediator cannot provide legal
advice or make decisions for you. The mediator's role is to facilitate
communication and help you reach an agreement. Be prepared to compromise
on issues, such as child custody and support, as the mediator cannot make
legal decisions for you. If you have questions about the legal issues
involved, it may be helpful to consult with a divorce attorney during
the mediation process.
6. Follow Through on the Settlement Agreement
Once you reach a settlement agreement in mediation, it's important
to follow through on the agreement. This means signing the necessary paperwork
and making any necessary changes to your financial accounts and other
legal documents. Following through on the agreement will help ensure that
the process is complete and that you can move forward with your life.
7. Choose the Right Mediator
The first step to a successful mediation is choosing the right mediator.
Look for a mediator who is experienced in mediation and is also a divorce
attorney who is highly skilled and has a stellar reputation. It's
important to choose a mediator who is neutral and impartial, and who can
help you and your spouse communicate effectively. The mediator should
also be able to guide you through the process and help you understand
the legal issues involved. As a divorce attorney/mediator with a medical
and psychological background, I bring a very comprehensive divorce experience
to my clients.
As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I will use
psychology and legal strategy to walk you through a very unique and highly
successful mediation process.
If you trust me with your divorce, I will support you and coach you through
the divorce process.
Why don’t you give mediation a try?
I am offering Free 1 hour consultations. Why not join me to learn more…
FREE I HOUR CONSULTATIONS arestill available virtually.
I look forward to sharing all the impressive benefits of mediation with you!
Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to schedule your Free 1 Hour
Consultation. Learn about the positive power of mediation!
Call 212.734.1551 now!
We still have a few appointments available this week.