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Blog 2023 March My 7 Tips to Help You Prepare for a Successful Divorce Mediation Process!
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My 7 Tips to Help You Prepare for a Successful Divorce Mediation Process!

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. || 13-Mar-2023

For more than 35 years, I have successfully served New York as a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator.

After witnessing the deep pain of many spouses day after day, I decided to develop a unique divorce mediation process combining psychology and legal strategy to address not just the legal components of divorce, but the psychological issues negatively affecting marriages. I created a comprehensive and emotionally supportive divorce path offering couples a more positive, productive, and healthy way to divorce!

I say, “Why fight when you can discuss, negotiate, and participate in a thoughtful and compassionate divorce method?”

There are no losers in mediation; everyone is a winner.

Divorce mediation is an alternative to the traditional legal process of divorce that can help couples reach a peaceful and fair settlement without going to court.

During mediation, a neutral third-party mediator assists both parties in coming to an agreement on the issues that need to be resolved, such as child custody, property division, and spousal support.

Mediation can be a great option for couples who want to save time, money, and emotional stress. However, it's important to prepare yourself and understand the mediation process to ensure a successful outcome.

Here are my 7 tips to help you prepare for a successful divorce mediation process:

1. Understand Your Needs and Interests

Before going into mediation, it's important to understand your own needs and interests. What are your priorities? What are the issues that are most important to you? What are your goals for the outcome of the mediation?

Knowing your needs and interests will help you communicate effectively during the mediation process and help you reach an agreement that is in your best interests.

2. Be Open to Compromise

One of the keys to a successful mediation is being willing to compromise. Going into mediation with a "win-lose" mindset will only lead to frustration and may not result in a fair settlement. Be open to exploring different options and be willing to make concessions in order to reach a mutually beneficial agreement. Remember that a successful mediation is one where both parties walk away feeling like each of them have gotten some of what they wanted and needed.

3. Gather All Necessary Information

It's important to come to mediation with all the necessary information and documents. This includes financial records, property records, and any other documents that may be relevant to the issues being discussed. Having all the necessary information will help you make informed decisions and ensure that the settlement is fair and equitable.

4. Try to Manage Your Emotions

Divorce can be an emotional and stressful process, but it's important to keep your emotions in check during mediation. Getting angry or emotional can derail the process and make it more difficult to reach an agreement. Mediation is a problem-solving process and that the goal is to reach a fair and equitable settlement. Focus on the issues at hand and try to communicate effectively with your spouse. Remember, put the past in the past. Dwelling in the past will hurt you in the present.

5. Be Prepared to Compromise on Legal Issues

It's important to understand that the mediator cannot provide legal advice or make decisions for you. The mediator's role is to facilitate communication and help you reach an agreement. Be prepared to compromise on issues, such as child custody and support, as the mediator cannot make legal decisions for you. If you have questions about the legal issues involved, it may be helpful to consult with a divorce attorney during the mediation process.

6. Follow Through on the Settlement Agreement

Once you reach a settlement agreement in mediation, it's important to follow through on the agreement. This means signing the necessary paperwork and making any necessary changes to your financial accounts and other legal documents. Following through on the agreement will help ensure that the process is complete and that you can move forward with your life.

7. Choose the Right Mediator

The first step to a successful mediation is choosing the right mediator. Look for a mediator who is experienced in mediation and is also a divorce attorney who is highly skilled and has a stellar reputation. It's important to choose a mediator who is neutral and impartial, and who can help you and your spouse communicate effectively. The mediator should also be able to guide you through the process and help you understand the legal issues involved. As a divorce attorney/mediator with a medical and psychological background, I bring a very comprehensive divorce experience to my clients.

As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I will use psychology and legal strategy to walk you through a very unique and highly successful mediation process.

If you trust me with your divorce, I will support you and coach you through the divorce process.

Why don’t you give mediation a try?

I am offering Free 1 hour consultations. Why not join me to learn more…

All our FREE I HOUR CONSULTATIONS arestill available virtually.

I look forward to sharing all the impressive benefits of mediation with you!

Warm regards,

Lois

Call New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner now to schedule your Free 1 Hour Consultation. Learn about the positive power of mediation!

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