When parents separate or divorce, it is important to create a parenting
agreement that outlines how they will share responsibilities for their
children's care and upbringing.
As a skilled, psychologically trained family law attorney/mediator, I have
created thousands of parenting agreements.
An effective parenting agreement should consider the best interests of
the children. It should provide clear guidelines for how the parents will
make decisions about their upbringing, education, and lifestyle.
The following are some key elements that I suggest parents include in their
This outlines the time each parent will have with the children, including
weekdays, weekends, holidays, and special occasions. It should be specific
and include the exact days and times for exchange of custody.
It is important to establish who will make decisions regarding the children's
education, healthcare, and religion. These decisions can be made jointly,
or one parent may be given decision-making authority in a particular area.
Communication is key, and the parenting agreement should specify how parents
will communicate about their children. This includes how they will share
important information, such as medical updates, school reports, and extra-curricular
activities, as well as how they will handle conflicts that may arise.
Transportation arrangements should be included in the parenting agreement.
This includes who will be responsible for transporting the children to
and from school, activities, and other appointments.
The parenting agreement should outline how parents will share financial
responsibilities for their children. This includes child support, medical
expenses, and extracurricular activities.
A good parenting agreement should include a conflict resolution process
for resolving disputes that may arise between parents. This can include
mediation, arbitration, or involving a parenting coordinator. As a seasoned
mediator, I have helped many couples discuss and negotiate issues involving
their children, and have created comprehensive plans which included their wishes.
Parenting styles should be considered and included in the agreement. For
example, if one parent is very strict and the other is more relaxed, there
needs to be an understanding of how they will co-parent effectively.
Finally, consistency is key for children's well-being. The parenting
agreement should establish consistency in routines, rules, and expectations
across both households.
I find when both parents commit to following a good parenting agreement,
it can help ensure a stable and more positive environment for their children
to grow and thrive.
If you have any questions regarding creating a solid, effective parenting
plan, please call me at 212.734.1551.
I will be happy to help you develop a plan you can both live with and one
your children will benefit from.
FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are still available virtually.
I look forward to helping you make important decisions that are in the
best interest of your children and your family.
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We have a few openings still available this week.