As a psychologically trained divorce attorney/mediator for more than 35
years, I have guided many spouses as they make the very important decision
on getting divorced.
I have shared with them that there are a few ways to get divorced in New
York. One is litigation, the old traditional way in court where both parties
hire an attorney and they fight it out.
There is also negotiation. Negotiation in a divorce refers to the process
of reaching agreements between divorcing spouses regarding various aspects
of their separation.
Negotiation allows the parties involved with assistance of their attorneys
to discuss and find mutually acceptable solutions without going to court.
Then there is the more progressive process of mediation. An attorney/mediator
guides a couple to make decisions together, avoiding court, unnecessary
confrontation, and expensive legal fees.
As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I handle all
divorce paths along with my colleagues and team of experts. I have developed
a psychologically based divorce process that is unique and highly successful
whether negotiating, mediating, or litigating.
After hearing all the facts during my free consultation, I can usually
assess which path will work best. I make recommendations based upon our
discussions, and I encourage spouses to choose the best divorce method
for them and their family.
When I consult with a spouse there is a lot to discuss:
- Is there a possibility of civility between the parties;
- Will it be necessary to fight;
- What steps have already been taken toward divorce;
- Are they both still living together;
- How long is the marriage;
- Are there children;
- Do both parties work;
- Are there properties, assets, pensions;
- Are there mental illness issues or addictions propelling the divorce;
- What will custody look like;
- Do both parties want a divorce;
- What do you want from this divorce?
Below are some of the most common questions I answer during a consultation:
- How to start a divorce proceeding;
- How to obtain temporary support;
- Are you entitled to support;
- Custody- sole or joint;
- What does “no fault” mean;
- How to negotiate to get what you want;
- Does it matter if your spouse is cheating or hiding assets;
- What is it like to go to trial? How does that compare to mediation?
- Can mediation work even if both parties are angry?
- When is it absolutely necessary to go to court and fight?
If you are married to someone who is a narcissist, bipolar, borderline,
sociopath, depressive, anxious, paranoid, alcoholic, abusive, or controlling,
we have the medical knowledge and legal expertise to get you the best results!
Unlike other divorce attorneys, I am a medically trained family law attorney
and mediator who has developed a powerful psychologically based divorce
process that is highly successful whether you will be negotiating, mediating,
My comprehensive divorce team includes mediators, litigators, psychologists,
psychiatrists, divorce counselors, financial advisors, private investigators
and even a wellness package to help you feel better as you go through
You don't have to walk your divorce journey alone! We will be with
you every step of the way with strategic advice and compassionate support!
Schedule your free one-hour consultation right now!
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I look forward to speaking with you.
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Some Exciting News!
I am in the process of writing a book about the psychology of divorce.
My current book, "Getting Your Share," published by Crown, explains
in detail the litigation process. Contact me if you are interested in
more information about my books.