When a young woman called me and said, “Social media is ruining my marriage,” I told her I wasn’t surprised. Increasingly this is a chief complaint and cause for divorce. Couples don’t realize social media networking can be the kiss of death for their marriage.
Reconnecting with old friends, former loves, and the opportunity to meet new people with a swipe to the right on a cell phone is leading to the destruction of the already delicate journey of love and marriage.
Once I calmed my new client down, I explained the good news. Social media websites and digital communications may have disadvantages but they also provide a treasure trove of information (evidence) for constructive use in the divorce process.
Think about it. Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, phone calls, GPS, emails, texts, and dating and other social media sites contain lots of search histories.
If you suspect social media and digital communications are wrecking your marriage, don’t forget to keep your eye on the following: (this information may prove to be valuable in possibly saving your marriage (for those who wish to) and/or contributing to your mediation/divorce negotiations):
- Cell Phones: Look at the phone bills. Is there a phone number constantly called that is unknown to you? Phone calls can be tracked and printed out.
- Texts: Lots of communication takes place by text. More and more marriages are ending because of texting. In reviewing texts, you have access to threads of conversations. Texts often reveal spontaneous feelings and correspondence. They are a valuable and insightful history of conversations; reading them can provide a lot of useful information.
- Computers and Emails: Look at emails and internet search histories. There are also cookies on your computer which show all emails whether deleted or not. In addition, internet servers also have all erased and deleted emails.
- Social Media Sites: You can open conversations/ pictures on social media sites of spouses spending time with other people. What seems like innocent conversation can reveal the development of a relationship that is more than just friends when looked at more closely.
- Dating Sites: Dating sites can provide profiles and some of my clients have found their spouse on these sites claiming to be single! It happens more than most of us would like to believe.
If you find your marriage being swallowed up by all the trappings of social media and digital communications, I can help.
With more than 35 years of experience helping couples navigate the divorce maze, I can guide you on constructively approaching your divorce.
Even if you are angry, there are ways to get sound results without losing your mind. I will put you in the driver’s seat!
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I look forward to speaking with you.
Kind regards,
Lois
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