When a young woman called me and said, “Social media is ruining my
marriage,” I told her I wasn’t surprised. Increasingly this
is a chief complaint and cause for divorce. Couples don’t realize
social media networking can be the kiss of death for their marriage.
Reconnecting with old friends, former loves, and the opportunity to meet
new people with a swipe to the right on a cell phone is leading to the
destruction of the already delicate journey of love and marriage.
Once I calmed my new client down, I explained the good news. Social media
websites and digital communications may have disadvantages but they also
provide a treasure trove of information (evidence) for constructive use
in the divorce process.
Think about it. Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, phone calls, GPS,
emails, texts, and dating and other social media sites contain lots of
If you suspect social media and digital communications are wrecking your
marriage, don’t forget to keep your eye on the following: (this
information may prove to be valuable in possibly saving your marriage
(for those who wish to) and/or contributing to your mediation/divorce
- Cell Phones: Look at the phone bills. Is there a phone number constantly
called that is unknown to you? Phone calls can be tracked and printed out.
- Texts: Lots of communication takes place by text. More and more marriages
are ending because of texting. In reviewing texts, you have access to
threads of conversations. Texts often reveal spontaneous feelings and
correspondence. They are a valuable and insightful history of conversations;
reading them can provide a lot of useful information.
- Computers and Emails: Look at emails and internet search histories. There
are also cookies on your computer which show all emails whether deleted
or not. In addition, internet servers also have all erased and deleted emails.
- Social Media Sites: You can open conversations/ pictures on social media
sites of spouses spending time with other people. What seems like innocent
conversation can reveal the development of a relationship that is more
than just friends when looked at more closely.
- Dating Sites: Dating sites can provide profiles and some of my clients
have found their spouse on these sites claiming to be single! It happens
more than most of us would like to believe.
If you find your marriage being swallowed up by all the trappings of social
media and digital communications, I can help.
With more than 35 years of experience helping couples navigate the divorce
maze, I can guide you on constructively approaching your divorce.
Even if you are angry, there are ways to get sound results without losing
your mind. I will put you in the driver’s seat!
FREE 1-HOUR CONSULTATIONS are still available virtually!
I look forward to speaking with you.
Don’t let social media ruin your life, call New York Divorce Lawyer
Lois Brenner now for a FREE consultation.
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