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Blog 2023 October Are You Stuck in a Bad Marriage and Thinking About Divorce?
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Are You Stuck in a Bad Marriage and Thinking About Divorce?

Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. || 18-Oct-2023

Divorce is not something you planned for when you walked blissfully down the aisle.

Marriage is often depicted as a sacred union filled with love, understanding, and happiness. However, in reality, not all marriages turn out to be fairy tales. People sometimes find themselves trapped in a bad marriage and struggling with issues that seem insurmountable.

As a highly skilled, medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I am uniquely qualified to help struggling spouses find the right method and best approach to divorce.

If you are stuck in a bad marriage and thinking of divorce, it’s important to make financially sound and family-friendly decisions!

The problem is many couples do lose sight of their family and finances during a divorce. Everything gets lost in anger and frustration. As a seasoned medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I encourage clients to stay focused and to address all the important aspects of divorce. Just because the marriage didn’t work out, doesn’t mean your family and finances have to fall apart!

Divorce is not a time to think with your heart but to think with your head. We can all agree this is easier said than done!

If you are thinking of divorce, I recommend you consider the following:

Family First

Once you have decided to divorce, look at your children first. Always think whether something is in the best interest of the children as you make your divorce plans. This can include co-parenting, visitation, talking with the children, meeting with a family therapist and most important, reassuring them you both love them and always will. Try not to bad-mouth the other spouse. It will only hurt your child!

Finances

Pay attention to your finances. Now is not the time to seek revenge or get even with one another. Be responsible about the family finances. Don’t start draining bank accounts or racking up credit card bills. It will only come back to bite you. Don’t do something that causes you to spend thousands of dollars on divorce attorneys. You and your family will suffer financially in the end. It’s not worth it.

Lifestyle

You may have grown accustomed to a certain lifestyle. Now that there will be two households instead of one, that may have to change. Time to look at your budget and make the necessary adjustments. You are already under enough stress!

Home

If you own a home together, consider whether keeping it is financially in the best interest of all. Maintaining the family home when one spouse is gone can be stressful and financially difficult. If downsizing or having a tenant helps, consider it. Think creatively on how to keep your home.

Settlement Agreement

It’s important to have a really well executed settlement agreement. Make sure your attorney/mediator has included everything of importance to you. You don’t want to have to go back and forth to court. It’s stressful and costs money!

Coping Mechanisms

Dealing with a bad marriage can be emotionally draining. Consider seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist to help you cope with the emotional challenges. It's essential to have healthy coping mechanisms in place. As part of my divorce process, I often recommend therapists from my team of experts to support clients and provide a comprehensive healing system during their divorce.

For more than 35 years as a divorce attorney and mediator, I have been guiding spouses successfully to find the right path to divorce. If you need help with your divorce, I would be happy to show you all your options! Take the first difficult step right now and call me today!

Remember, your well-being is essential, and you have the power to shape your future. It may not be easy, but there is hope, help, and a path to a happier, healthier life beyond a bad marriage.

I look forward to helping you find the right divorce path for you!

Warm regards,

Lois

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