EXPERIENCE THE HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL BRENNER DIVORCE MEDIATION METHOD!
What is the first thing you think of when you hear the word “divorce?”
“Fight!” Hire a Lawyer.”
This is the way it’s been ever since the founding of our country when we
imported the British legal model for divorce – the adversarial system. Now that one in
every two marriages in this country ends in divorce, the devastation caused by the system
has come under question. Is there a better way?
Yes. It’s called “Mediation.” New on the radar for the last few years, it is now
becoming more widely known. It was previously employed in labor negotiations, but its
use has been expanding to include family law problems.
Here’s how it works: The divorcing couple hires one individual, instead of two
opposing lawyers, to help them resolve their differences. The mediator is an
independent, unbiased individual, trained in mediation (usually a lawyer or a mental
health professional), whose job is to facilitate an agreement on all issues between the
husband and wife. The results are astonishing and are achieved often in hours and
weeks, instead of months and year. The central truth about divorce today is that it is not
just a legal experience, it is also a psychological experience. In the traditional system
Divorce is a conflict-based, lengthy, and costly process which completely ignores the
important psychological dynamics and behavior of the couple.
As you know abusive relationships are very much in the news today. Many marriages end because one party is abusive, and often the victim is not even aware of the abuse. The old system of divorce encourages people to hurt each other and to fight when it is not absolutely necessary. It is possible for couples to change their automatic behavior and achieve an entirely different outcome.
I developed my unique divorce mediation method during my 35+ years of experience and practice as a divorce attorney, psychologically - trained medical professional, and court-appointed mediator. My divorce mediation method involves behavior modifications, the use of psychology - identifying personality and character traits, emotions, family dynamics, and applying the law to develop strategies for a more positive experience. This method is less adversarial, less expensive, and less time-consuming than the traditional system. It keeps couples out of court and away from lawyers. Unlike the standard approach, this method takes into consideration the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that affect divorcing couples, and which, if properly identified, can be used to leverage a more successful and calmer outcome.
Unlike the approach of other divorce attorneys my divorce mediation method addresses the pervasive presence of verbal abuse in its many destructive forms:
- Criticizing
- Hiding finances
- Blaming
- Controlling
- Threatening
- Denial
- Insulting
- Withholding
- Ignoring
- Gas lighting
- Separating from friends and family Verbal abuse disguised as jokes.
My divorce mediation method does not approach Divorce just based on the law, it’s based on psychology too! You get to choose how you want to end your marriage. You can litigate, negotiate or mediate. How you navigate the process depends not only on the law of your state but largely upon the psychological dynamics of your relationship; the emotions, thoughts, personality traits and behavior of the individuals.
The personality and behavior of both you and your spouse make a difference—a big difference—in the nature and outcome of your divorce.
Let me help you avoid the traditional horror stories of divorce!
I will work for and with both of you to help you reach a settlement that permits you to
concentrate on the future and the potential it holds. There is a typical process we will use
to reach a settlement; however, your individual needs may cause us to depart from a strict
adherence to it.
During the process we will:
- Develop current and future income information;
- Develop budgets;
- Inventory marriage assets (property);
- Begin to define each of your short – and long-term goals;
- Define general areas of agreement;
- Identify substantive areas of disagreement;
- Identify symbolic and emotional issues;
- Work through the parenting arrangements;
- Negotiate money differences.
If you want to try a highly successful, less expensive, compassionate approach to your divorce call me! I will help you navigate your divorce using the law and psychology to achieve a productive, fair, amicable agreement and a happier future!
Call New York Divorce Attorney and Mediator Lois Brenner today to schedule your Divorce Mediation Session! 212.734.1551
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Lois Brenner is a remarkable attorney and compassionate advocate for dads. She guided me when I was confused and didn't know what to do to get shared custody of my daughter. She encouraged me to stay strong and to fight, and she negotiated a much better custody arrangement than my previous lawyer. What great attorney. Thank you Ms. Brenner- Christoff
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Thanks to Lois Brenner our wedding went well because we had our prenuptial agreement in place. We literally had her draft our prenuptial agreement 2 weeks before our wedding. She was thorough, made suggestions to include things we hadn’t even thought of, and got it done really quickly. Thanks Lois :)- Tanya S
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I am a highly successful money manager and before meeting Lois Brenner, hiring a divorce attorney was a disaster. Two previous divorce attorneys really wasted my funds, and had no savvy when it came to asset and property distribution. Lois Brenner finally fixed the mess I was in. She and her team of financial experts, including attorney Matthew Ehrlich were able to prepare an asset and property distribution that was realistic, keeping in mind tax ramifications, and important distributions and allocations. They negotiated a thorough and financially sound divorce settlement. If you have a lot of assets, just any divorce attorney won’t do. You really need someone with a lot of knowledge. Lois Brenner and Matthew Ehrlich were really impressive. Thanks!!- Michael C.
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I met with Lois Brenner nine months ago, and my life has been changed for the better! She and her legal team really encouraged me to leave a very abusive husband. They gave me the knowledge and courage to take the necessary legal steps. My parents were helping me and found Lois to be smart, and compassionate. My whole family felt really comfortable having her handle my case. I am finally divorced, away from an abusive man and ready to start a new life. I can’t thank Lois and her legal team enough for all the support I received. I got a much better settlement than I expected because they were relentless in locating money my husband had hidden. Thank you so much!- Kim B.
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Going through with our divorce was very difficult time for me and my ex husband. Finding the right lawyer was very confusing, frustrating and time consuming. I was very lucky to find Lois. She is professional and human at the same time. In a few sessions she answered all of our questions, gave us great advice and filled and filed all paperwork for us. Our divorce was finalized very quickly and thanks to Lois it was very smooth process. If my best friend would need a divorce lawyer I would recommend Lois without any reservations.!!! Christina C.- Christine C.
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Best Divorce Lawyers in NYC!! I can’t say enough about Lois Brenner. She saved my life. I was really being abused by my husband. I wanted a divorce, but I was scared to leave. Hiring her provided me with a support system that helped me break free of a destructive marriage. She, along with her team of professionals, and her litigation colleague Matt really gave me the backbone to step up and out. My children are safe, I’m back at work, and we are no longer afraid. The ongoing legal and personal support made all of this possible. Working with Lois and Matt was a life-changing experience. Katie M.- Katie M.
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I had a complicated situation wherein I had to get a divorce through publication as my husband and I had not been in contact for 5 years and I was out of the US for a few years. (it was an abusive marriage) I reside in Buffalo and I spoke with several attorneys locally but I did not feel that any of the local attorneys were able able to understand my situation. Some suggested that I locate my husband, and each one of them wanted to start by identifying and listing the assets. Unsatisfied, I started looking for attorneys in NY city, and I found Ms. Brenner through Avvo. During the consultation, she was extremely kind and understanding and agreed to take on my case. Ms. Brenner helped me get a divorce through publication and she/her team took care of everything. All I had to do was provide her with documentation. I am grateful to Ms. Brenner for helping me get out of a sticky stressful situation. I would definitely recommend her to anybody in a similar situation. Thank you, Ms. Brenner.
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Amazing, Skillful Mediator!!!! We went to see Lois Brenner for a mediation consultation. We had pretty much decided our marriage was over. We just wanted to end things fair and amicably. Lois Brenner spent so much time with us, and gave us great insight as to how the process would help us, we hired her on the spot. Our sessions thereafter were stealth. She organized us, helped us identify and address all the issues. She showed us how to communicate effectively throughout the process. We were able to address all our issues, especially property and finances, arrive at a comfortable settlement agreement, and now we are waiting for the judge to sign our divorce. What an extraordinary process. I highly recommend Lois Brenner and mediation. She’s super, and mediation really works.- Maggie and Josh
