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5 Signs Your Spouse has a Personality Disorder!


As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I receive many calls from spouses who talk about their marriages that are filled with drama, hostility, verbal abuse, and high intensity.

When I hear some of these descriptions, I often recognize there is more going on than just poor communication. These are often signs that one spouse has some type of personality disorder.

There are several types of personality disorders and they range from:

  1. antisocial;
  2. borderline;
  3. narcissistic;
  4. obsessive compulsive; and
  5. paranoid; to name just a few.

Here are 5 signs that your spouse may have a personality disorder:

  1. Walking On Eggshells.

Do you find yourself walking on eggshells; trying to avoid anything that will trigger your spouse? You probably have become good at reading your spouses’ mood and can gauge if it’s going to be a good day or a bad one. You are probably grateful when he/is are not around so you can have some peace and quiet.

  1. Manipulative Behavior.

The truth is constantly twisted. Do you feel abused or manipulated? Are you being isolated from friends and family? Verbally assaulted? Are you coerced sexually? Are you a victim of gaslighting?

  1. Living in Chaos.

Is the amount of stress generated in your home over the top and unnecessary? Does your spouse seem to thrive in this type of environment? When there is little or no chaos, do they try to create it? Is peace possible only when your spouse gets their way?

  1. It’s All About Them.

It’s always about what they think, or how they feel. The only time it’s about you is when they accuse you of something or blame you. They are ALWAYS right! It is not possible to have true intimacy with your spouse.

  1. Jeykll and Mr. Hyde.

There is the version of your spouse that friends know, and then there is the spouse you know at home. They like impressing others with their vivacious personality, but behind closed doors, the mask comes off, and the ugly side emerges.

Some spouses have expressed they feel crazy because they just don’t know what is going on. They feel scared, confused, and doesn’t know what to do.

It is not always easy to remain married to someone with a personality disorder. They tend to destroy everything around them. You are not in a healthy marriage. You are in an inequitable partnership. If you are living in a marriage with a spouse exhibiting these behaviors ,you may want to consider having a consultation with a therapist and a divorce attorney.

Don’t be held hostage in this type of relationship.

You deserve to feel mentally healthy and happy.

It is possible to move out of this type of marriage. As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I can guide you towards a divorce process that will successfully address these delicate mental health issues. I am uniquely equipped to provide you with valuable insight and solutions to dissolve this dysfunctional marriage.

I know you are scared, but you are not alone. Take this first step, and call me.

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I hope to hear from you.

Stay Healthy & Safety!

Warm regards,


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