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Are You Looking for a Peaceful Approach to Divorce?


During these challenging, uncertain times, as a divorce attorney and mediator, I am happy to offer spouses a peaceful approach to divorce.

It gives me great pleasure to offer a productive alternative to litigation, combative lawyers, closed courts, and expensive attorneys’ fees.

For couples that have never traveled the divorce path before, it can be scary, confusing, and overwhelming. When it comes to divorce, the legal system by its very nature is adversarial, pitting people against each other with the promise of only one winner and with no room for compromise. I say, “ If you once were in love, able to organize your lives and build a life together you should be able to discuss and organize your lives to dissolve your marriage and to live apart.”

I often explain to spouses, with mediation there are no losers; everyone is a winner. Mediation offers a more human, less painful way to approach divorce. Mediation is an opportunity to see divorce and your spouse through a different lens.

Mediation is a negotiated agreement between divorcing spouses on the important issues: finances, support, property, and children. As the divorce mediator, my role is to facilitate your discussions, keep you on track and to make sure negotiations are fair and offer suggestions when you hit a roadblock. The focus of mediation is for you to control your own divorce. Spouses have the opportunity to discuss their personal needs and priorities and to arrive together, with my help, at an agreement fair to both parties.

Another appealing aspect of the mediation process is time and cost. Most divorce mediation cases can be resolved in weeks to months instead of years and can cost tens of thousands of dollars less than fighting your case in court.

Mediation, the less adversarial approach to divorce, will keep more money in your pocket, give you peace of mind, and divorce mediation will help you keep your dignity in the process.

When spouses are considering divorce, I try to introduce the more peaceful approach first. Even when couples are angry, I have found mediation to be a process that can work well. Not all divorces can be resolved using mediation but the ones that can be, should.

There is no easy path to divorce but mediation is a less painful road to travel and is being embraced as the peaceful alternative in 2021, and especially during this pandemic.

As a divorce lawyer, a psychologically-trained mediator with a medical degree, and as a mom, I can help you while you are divorcing to put your family first.

Here is what is important to most spouses in any divorce process:

  1. to be heard
  2. to be informed;
  3. to be understood;
  4. emotionally supported;
  5. have things done in a timely manner;
  6. get a fair settlement;
  7. avoid court;
  8. not have to spend their life savings on lawyers.

If you trust me with your divorce, I will do all the above, and more to help you and your family find peace and a fair settlement in your divorce process.

Having a highly skilled and effective attorney/mediator to help facilitate a healthy, informative, conversation about divorce can be an effective first step. Let’s take it together.

Our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are veryinformative and conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk!

Call me to learn what is possible in getting a peaceful divorce, especially as we approach the New Year!

I look forward to speaking with you!

Stay healthy & safe!

Warm regards,


Call New York Divorce Lawyer & Mediator Lois Brenner now to book your free consultation. 212.734.1551