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Are You Sure Your Spouse Is Paying the Taxes?


As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and meditator, I have handled thousands of cases over the last 35+ years. I have had many lightbulb moments. What spouses can do to ruin a marriage may surprise you.

So let me share a story with you that will open your eyes and make you think twice.
Last year after researching online and finding me on Avvo, a young woman called me for a free consultation. She was a married professional with two small children. She was scared, angry, and confused. She had just received an email from her employer who notified her that her salary was being garnished by the IRS. She was stunned! What could this be about? She signed those yearly joint tax returns and her husband always paid the taxes owed. Or so she thought…

Upon investigation, and speaking with the IRS, we learned that her husband had not paid their taxes for 5 years and owed $250,000.

The wife felt betrayed and angry that her “loving husband” of 12 years had been lying to her and jeopardizing her and her family. When they spoke with me, since he agreed to participate in a mediation session, I identified that not only was he clearly a narcissist and a sociopath, with no regard for others, but he also had a gambling problem that dated back to his teens. He had been living a double life (including having another family which was uncovered as we reviewed emails and texts), and his wife never knew it.

Although he begged her to stay married, his wife was devastated and could not, and did not stay in this sham of a marriage.

We were able to clear her with the IRS as an “innocent spouse,” and help her avoid prosecution with the help of our team’s tax specialists, and we made him responsible for the debts to the IRS.

In addition, the wife got sole custody, child support, and possession of the marital residence. For her, most important, she got piece of mind and she got her life back. She was no longer living a lie.

It’s important to always know what your spouse is doing. Read everything you sign and be aware that “you are responsible for you.” Don’t put your life in the hands of anyone. Not even someone you think is a “loving spouse.”

If you are thinking of divorce or worried your spouse is not paying the taxes, call me.

As a divorce attorney and mediator with over 35 years experience, I have the expertise to guide you through a financially complex divorce process. I, along with my litigation partner, team of financial experts, and accountants will be happy to help!

All our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS are conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk.

I look forward to speaking with you!

Stay healthy and safe!

Warm regards,

New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner is available for a FREE consultation. Call 212.734.1551.