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Can a Postnuptial Agreement Save Your Marriage to a Mentally Ill Spouse?


With Fall fast approaching, many couples are making plans for their children’s schooling, organizing work schedules, and for others re-examining their marriages and wondering how they can make their lives better, especially in these challenging times.

Some couples consider a prenuptial agreement when they are getting married.

But what if you weren’t one of those couples? Is it too late once you’ve been married to put something in place to keep your marriage on track or address some of the important issues in the event you get divorced?

No, it’s never too late and that’s why in the latter portion of the 20th century postnuptial agreements were introduced.

Some think postnuptial agreements were a vehicle crafted in response to the increase in divorce rates in the 1970s. They have proven to be very useful vehicles for protection in the event of divorce.

In my divorce practice, since I am a psychologically trained divorce attorney/mediator, I work with many couples where mental illness is a third party in a marriage. For those who want to save their marriage and work on their spouse’s mental health issues but protect their future, a postnuptial agreement is a perfect solution.

A postnuptial agreement has saved many marriages!! For some couples, the agreement addresses children, finances, and for others infidelity and in some cases, ramifications of psychological issues are not addressed. I have helped hundreds of couples save their marriages using this healing and effective vehicle. I can help you too!

So what is a postnuptial agreement?

A postnuptial agreement is a written contract executed after a couple gets married. The purpose of this contract is to address and settle a couple’s affairs in the event of a separation or divorce.

When thinking about the issues to be addressed in a postnuptial agreement, I suggest you consider the following:

  1. Assets, liabilities, income;
  2. Expectations of gifts and inheritances;
  3. Trusts either spouse receives benefits from, whether before or after marriage;
  4. How post-marital debts will be paid;
  5. Decide who, or if both of you, will own or occupy the marital residence and secondary homes in the event of divorce or death; What happens to property - real estate, jewelry, artwork, antiques;
  6. Spousal support;
  7. Children - child support, custody; (subject to judicial review);
  8. Health insurance;
  9. Life insurance;
  10. Death benefits- what you will provide for in your will.

I have been thoughtfully and skillfully developing postnuptial agreements for decades!

If you are thinking of introducing a postnuptial agreement to possibly save your marriage, address mental illness in your marriage, or prepare for a divorce in the future, call me.

I will guide you on all of the important issues to cover.

My unique combination of legal and psychological training is very effective when it comes to developing a postnuptial agreement to protect you.

All our FREE CONSULTATIONS are conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk.

I hope to hear from you!

Continue to stay healthy and safe!

Warm regards,


New York divorce attorney Lois Brenner is a postnuptial agreement expert available to help you.

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