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Are Mental Health Issues Destroying Your Marriage?


After living through a pandemic and losing loved ones and friends, there is an immediate need to address mental health issues plaguing marriages.

We see all kinds of people suffering with mental health issues in the news, but do you know many marriages are suffering from mental health issues? Many!

As a psychologically trained divorce lawyer/mediator, I have heard from many frightened spouses, abused wives, and distraught, confused husbands. Mental health issues in marriages have been on the rise and destroying couples and families.

Divorce is about people, their psychology, and the emotional health of a couple. The traditional divorce system is an adversarial, lengthy, and costly process which completely ignores the psychological component of divorce and is far more interested in conflict and cost.

During 35 years of practice as a divorce attorney, psychologically trained medical professional, and court-appointed mediator, I heard the cries of many spouses and developed a psychologically based divorce process that is highly effective, whether litigating or mediating, and most importantly, healing.

My method involves behavior modifications, the use of psychology--identifying personality and character traits, emotions, family dynamics, and skillfully applying the law to develop strategies tailored to each case for a more productive and positive experience. My approach is less adversarial, less expensive, and less time-consuming than the traditional system.

I engage couples in a productive discussion and effective decision-making, which leads to healthier, more positive outcomes.

Unlike the standard divorce approach, this method takes into consideration the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that affect divorcing couples, and which, if properly identified, can be used to leverage a more successful and calmer outcome.

My process addresses the pervasive presence of mental health issues that often result in verbal abuse in its many HIDDEN forms which include:

  • Criticizing
  • Hiding finances
  • Blaming
  • Controlling
  • Threatening
  • Denial
  • Insulting
  • Withholding
  • Ignoring
  • Gas lighting
  • Separating from friends and family
  • Verbal abuse disguised as jokes

Most attorneys treat divorce as a purely legal (and adversarial) experience. I don’t!

Divorce is not based solely on the law. It’s about you! All of you! That includes the psychological makeup of both you and your spouse.

I know taking this step won’t be easy, but gaining your freedom and happiness will be worth it. As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I am uniquely qualified to provide you with the psychological and legal strategy necessary to remove yourself safely from the grip of a mentally unhealthy marriage. Call me now to find out more…

All our Free 1-Hour Consultations are discreetly and conveniently conducted virtually to continue to reduce risk.

I look forward to speaking with you.

Stay healthy and safe!

Warm regards,


Don’t stay in a mentally unhealthy or abusive marriage.

New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner is available right now for a FREE consultation.

Call 212.734.1551.