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Are You Ready to Divorce Your Spouse With a Personality Disorder?


Are you ready to divorce your spouse with a personality disorder? If you are, I’m here to help!

Is your marriage surrounded by chaos, hostility, conflict, frustration, and lots of drama? Are your efforts to improve the situation constantly ridiculed, shot down and ignored?

As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator for more than 35 years, I can tell you there might be a lot more going on than just poor communication in your marriage. It might be that your spouse has a personality disorder.

There are several types of personality disorders:

  1. Obsessive-compulsive;
  2. Anti-social;
  3. Borderline;
  4. Paraniod;
  5. Narcisisstic, just to name a few.

7 Signs your spouse may have a personality disorder:

1. Crazy Behaviors

Do you feel like you are losing your mind?

Have your been convinced by your spouse that you are the problem? You have failed? You are worthless?

2. Make You Feel Like You Are Living With Mr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

At home you are living with one version of your spouse, and outside, in front of family and friends, you are with another version of your spouse.

3. You Are Walking on Eggshells

You are constantly dodging your spouse’s hotspots. You eventually avoid them at all costs. You never know what version of your spouse will come walking through the door.

4. It’s Always Your Fault

If you ever receive an apology it is usually followed by a qualifier like “but you…” They are never wrong or to blame. It’s always your fault!

5. You’re Being Manipulated

The truth is constantly being twisted or distorted. You are being manipulated and controlled. You are verbally assaulted, and isolated from family and friends.

6. Paranoia

People with personality disorders are more prone to paranoia. They tend to be overly suspicious of everything. In some cases they even distrust friends and family.

7. Change in Sexual Habits

Altered libido and sexual habits are also common symptoms associated with personality disorders. Some people may experience a loss of libido, with nothing and no one having an arousing effect on them. While others, may suddenly become exceptionally sexually proactive, often indulging in irresponsible and excessive sexual activity.

If you are living in a marriage where you are abused, manipulated, or controlled, there is a way out. Your spouse may say they want a happy, healthy marriage but their actions say otherwise. This is not a marriage, you are being held captive by a personality disorder. Getting out won’t be easy, but with the right divorce team, your freedom is possible.

Acknowledging that a personality disorder is a third party in your marriage is the first step. The next step is to pick up your phone and call a professional like me and my team of experts.

I know this won’t be easy, but gaining your freedom and happiness will be worth it. As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I am uniquely qualified to provide you with the psychological guidance and legal strategy necessary to remove yourself safely from the grip of a spouse with a personality disorder. Call me now to discuss your marriage.

All our FREE 1-HOUR CONSULTATIONS are conducted virtually to reduce risk.

I look forward to helping you secure a safe and successful removal from a marriage to someone with a personality disorder.

Stay healthy and safe!

Warm regards,


New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner is available for a FREE consultation. Call 212.734.1551 now!