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Thinking About Separation or Divorce but You Are Afraid?


I know it’s scary. Separation or divorce is never an easy decision. You need understanding, support and a “voice of reason.”

Whatever direction you choose, I’m here to answer all your questions, keep you on track and help you meet your goals!

With over decades of experience as a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I have been successfully guiding spouses through the separation and divorce process. I can show you what’s possible and what can work for you and your family! The divorce process can be family friendly, considerate, supportive and compassionate.

Here’s what you need to know about eparation or Divorce:

1. Don’t be afraid; divorce is not as scary as it looks;

2. Keep in mind nothing will happen until you take the first step;

3. Find the right attorney/mediator for you;

4. You are entitled to certain benefits; know what your rights are and what you are entitled to;

5. You can separate, divorce or have a postnuptial agreement;

6. There are different vehicles to obtain a divorce-mediation, litigation, negotiation; learn what they are;

7. Divorce is not just the sad end of a part of your life, but a happy, healthy beginning of the rest of your life!

If you are not ready for a divorce, you don’t have to jump into one. Sometimes a separation can work well too.

So when clients consult with me and ask me if they should separate or divorce, I ask lots of questions to assess where they are in their marriage. Sometimes a separation or postnuptial agreement is a consideration because they want to give their marriage a chance, stay on their spouse’s health insurance, try marriage counseling or take the time to prepare for a divorce.

Some couples just get a separation and go their separate ways to see what happens. Others want a divorce so they can move on and start a new life.

Think about what it is that you want!

Whether thinking of separation or divorce, during a free consultation, we can discuss the following:

  1. equitable distribution of property;
  2. definitions of marital property and separate property;
  3. under what circumstances one spouse may receive maintenance;
  4. estate rights;
  5. pension rights;
  6. child support;
  7. custody of children;
  8. spousal support.

It’s important to know that you will be okay on the other side of your divorce. Many are worried about money, the children, how visitation will work, where they will live, and how they will begin again.

Everything is possible with proper planning, a strong, successful divorce team and good decision-making.

Choosing the best divorce path, most skilled and strategic representation and support structure is key!

So if you’re wondering whether you should separate, or divorce? Call me. I will answer all your questions! My medical background can help with the psychological aspects of your divorce.

For over 35 years as a divorce attorney and mediator, I have been guiding spouses successfully to find the right path to divorce.

I have the unique ability to provide a compassionate and productive process to see you through your divorce.

Our FREE 1 hour consultations are very informative and discreetly and conveniently conducted virtually.

I look forward to helping you and your family.

Warm regards,


Don’t be afraid to separate or divorce! Take your first step right now!

Call New York Divorce Attorney Lois Brenner to schedule your FREE consultation. 212.734.1551