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Is Your Spouse a Psychopath?


As a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator for more than 35 years, I have helped many spouses escape the clutches of a psychopathic partner.

Psychopaths tend to be extremely charming, and often secretly ruining the lives of the very person they profess to love. Psychopaths use their charm to deceive and to trap their victims.

The typical psychopath, as portrayed in the media, is often a ruthless serial killer. But the majority of people that exhibit psychopathic traits are much more subtle. That is why marrying a psychopath is possible, and not as unusual as one might think.

In my psychologically based divorce mediation practice, I have identified and have helped many spouses successfully divorce a psychopath.

Here are some traits of a psychopath:

  • Antisocial behavior
  • Superficial charm
  • Impulsivity
  • Callous, unemotional traits
  • Lack of guilt
  • Lack of empathy
  • Socially irresponsible behavior
  • Disregarding or violating the right of others
  • Inability to distinguish right from wrong
  • Tendency to lie often
  • Manipulating and hurting others
  • Difficulty showing remorse or empathy

When a spouse tells me they think they are married to a psychopath, they have experienced all kinds of uncomfortable behaviors from their spouse.

A professional woman and mom called me last year and told me she was scared and thought her husband was aggressively trying to manipulate her life.

She had married 7 years ago and had 6-year-old twins. Her husband was a highly accomplished patent attorney, she a celebrity chef. She felt her husband had married her because it served him well. She came from a wealthy family, she herself an accomplished chef and she had helped him financially pay for law school.

He had promised to pay her back but never did. He was a charismatic attorney who gambled, took no responsibility for anything, lied about everything, and ran up debts expecting her to take care of them. He never cared when she felt anxious, sad or afraid when she tried to discuss all their issues. He just said she was sensitive and overreacting.

It was clear to me she was married to a psychopath and needed help out of a very unhealthy marriage.

My litigation partner and I are currently working on her case and fighting to get her the best settlement possible. Her husband has been uncooperative along the way and has made it clear “he is the victim.”

We are gathering some financial forensics to locate assets he has hidden away overseas and my client is working with a psychologist on my team to help her gain insight and emotional strength to get to the other side of this divorce as a whole person.

My combination of legal and psychological strategies is unique and effective when it comes to divorce. The understanding and proper guidance for this complicated aspect is important for a psychologically safe and legally successful outcome.

For more than 35 years as a divorce attorney and mediator, I have been guiding spouses successfully to find solutions.

I have the unique ability to provide a compassionate and productive process to coach you through your divorce.

Our FREE 1 hour consultations are veryinformative and conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk!

I look forward to helping you and your family.

Stay healthy and safe!

Warm regards,


If you think you are married to a psychopath and want a divorce, call New York Divorce Attorney Lois Brenner now to schedule your FREE consultation.