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IT Specialists to Social Media Influencers Love Attorney Brenner's Divorce Mediation!


Since I have been practicing over 35 years as a psychologically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I have had an impressive array of clients from IT specialists to social media influencers. Regardless of a client’s position in life, the 3 P’s of Mediation are appealing to all—Positive, Productive and Peaceful.

About a year ago, an up and coming social media influencer contacted me for a consultation. He and his wife had been married 8 years, had 3 children and lived both in New York and South Carolina.

His wife was a hair stylist, and her husband was fed-up with what he called her "financial excesses." She spent a lot of money on designer clothes for the children and had redecorated their family home 5 times in 8 years. Although he was finally becoming a successful influencer, he couldn’t afford the lifestyle she had created.

They were in $115,000 in debt, their children were being spoiled and, as a family, they were very unhappy. He felt she was irresponsible and had spoken with her many times. They even tried a therapist and nothing was working. He felt he couldn’t stay married any more, and he told her.

As is standard in these cases, the wife initially wanted to hire a lawyer. The husband was fascinated by what he had heard about my unique psychologically based meditation method, and called me. After our conversation, he was eager to share the mediation process with her.

Honestly, at first I wasn’t sure mediation would work for them. They were fighting a lot. During our virtual meetings, I really had to keep them focused once she agreed to try mediation.

The wife was super angry, especially because she felt her husband wanted out of the marriage because he had let fame go to his head. As it turned out, it was her financial recklessness that had really worn on him and he wouldn’t stay in this marriage anymore. This deterioration had been going on for quite some time. They had grown apart way before his success/fame. Her compulsive need to shop that had put them in debt had really gotten to him.

As the divorce process continued, they settled in to the rhythm of my mediation process, the anger subsided and they were able to engage in productive conversations and make thoughtful decisions.

The husband was fair and agreed to help with the debts although his wife had generated most of the debt.

It was important for them to consider mediation for many reasons but in particular it helped them keep their privacy while divorcing, which could have erupted onto front-page news if they had litigated their matter.

The final outcome was fair. The split of the assets was equitable. The management of the debts was reasonable. The custody, support and visitation with the children was decided on thoughtfully.

I’m happy to report this couple has just received their judgment of divorce and, the family is adjusting to their new lives.

You see, there is life after divorce. The method you choose to get there can make all the difference! Let me walk you down the best path for you and your family!

If you are thinking of divorce and have questions about mediation and how it can help you, call me. We can tackle your divorce together, and I will explain to you what is possible!

All our FREE 1 HOUR CONSULTATIONS arediscreetly and conveniently still available virtually!

Call me now and take advantage of a free consultation! 212.734.1551

I look forward to speaking with you.

Warm regards,


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