Skip to Content

Do You Need Help Divorcing a Paranoid Spouse?


I received a phone call a few months ago from a very upset husband asking for help. Greg shared with me the story of his wife whom he loved very much but he didn’t know how to help her or what to do. The couple had been married 16 years and had three children 12, 10, and 8 years old.

His wife had always exhibited signs of paranoia even early on in their marriage. He admitted he didn’t know what it was at the time. She was fearful of other people and new environments. She was always thinking someone was out to get her. The husband admitted he ignored these strange behaviors because he loved her. He thought somehow if they had children she would feel more secure and feel better. Of course, that did not happen and she only grew worse over the years. She had started accusing him of infidelity and started thinking family members were against her and wouldn’t let any family visit or help with the children.

He had grown concerned for the well-being of his family and knew he could no longer ignore these behaviors or stay in this marriage and needed to protect his children.

He reluctantly and tearfully told me he needed a divorce but also wanted to help his wife.

As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I advised Greg on what was possible and assured him we would approach this divorce with compassion and sensitivity.

I work with spouses all the time in relationships with partners who are mentally unstable. These are painful marriages filled with sadness, uncertainty, and sometimes fear.

We see all kinds of people today suffering with mental health issues in the news, but what is not often discussed is how many marriages are suffering deeply and eroding from the effects of mental health problems.

I have worked with countless frightened spouses, abused wives, and distraught, confused husbands. Mental health issues in marriages have been on the rise and destroying couples and families, especially in the past few years.

Divorce is about people, their psychology and the emotional health of a couple. The traditional divorce system is an adversarial, lengthy, and costly process which completely ignores the psychological component of divorce and is far more interested in conflict and cost.

During over 35 years of practice as a divorce attorney, psychologically-trained medical professional, and court-appointed mediator, I have heard the cries of many spouses and developed a psychologically-based divorce process that is highly effective, whether litigating or mediating, and most importantly, healing.

My divorce method involves behavior modification, the use of psychology - identifying personality and character traits, emotions, family dynamics, and skillfully applying the law to develop strategies tailored to each case for a more productive and positive experience.

Due to my psychological background and legal skills I was able to help Greg and his wife. His wife is receiving treatment and Greg has custody of his children right now. We are using my mediation methods to move this family through the divorce process and are using my team of experts to provide additional support where needed. We will continue to provide comprehensive support to Greg and his family as we move them through this difficult time finding appropriate solutions to dissolve this marriage.

Most attorneys treat divorce as a purely legal (and adversarial) experience. Because of my background both legally and psychologically, I don’t!

Divorce is not based solely on the law. It’s about people! That includes the psychological makeup of both you and your spouse.

I know taking this step won’t be easy, but gaining your freedom and happiness will be worth it.

Since I am more than a divorce attorney, but also a medical professional, I am uniquely qualified to provide you with the psychological and legal guidance necessary to remove yourself safely from the grip of a mentally unhealthy marriage. Call me now to find out more…

All our Free 1 Hour Consultations are discreetly and conveniently available virtually.

I look forward to speaking with you!

Warm regards,


Don’t stay in a mentally unhealthy or abusive marriage.

New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner is available right now for a FREE consultation.

Learn more about removing yourself from a mentally unhealthy marriage call 212.734.1551.