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Are Mental Health Issues and Abuse Destroying Your Marriage?


As a psychologically trained divorce lawyer/mediator, I have heard from countless frightened spouses, abused wives, and distraught, confused husbands. Mental health issues in marriages are on the rise and destroying couples and families.

We see all kinds of people suffering with mental health issues in the news, but do you know many marriages are suffering from mental health issues? Many!

Divorce is about people, their psychology and the emotional health of a couple and their marriage. The traditional divorce system is an adversarial, lengthy, and costly process which completely ignores the psychological component of divorce and is far more interested in conflict and cost.

During over 35 years of practice as a divorce attorney, psychologically trained medical professional, and court-appointed mediator, I heard the cries of many spouses and developed a psychologically based divorce process that is highly effective, whether negotiating, mediating or litigating, and most important, healing.

My method involves behavior modifications, the use of psychology identifying personality and character traits, emotions, family dynamics, and skillfully applying the law to develop strategies tailored to each case for a more productive and positive experience. My approach is less adversarial, less expensive, and less time-consuming than the traditional system.

I engage couples in a productive discussion and effective decision-making, which leads to healthier, more positive outcomes.

Unlike the standard divorce approach, this method takes into consideration the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that affect divorcing couples, and which, if properly identified, can be used to leverage a more successful and calmer outcome.

My process addresses the pervasive presence of mental health issues that often result in verbal abuse in its many HIDDEN forms which include:

  • Criticizing
  • Hiding finances
  • Blaming
  • Controlling
  • Threatening
  • Denial
  • Insulting
  • Withholding
  • Ignoring
  • Gas lighting
  • Separating from friends and family
  • Verbal abuse disguised as jokes

Most attorneys treat divorce as a purely legal (and adversarial) experience. I don’t!

Divorce is not based solely on the law. It’s about you! All of you! That includes the psychological makeup of both you and your spouse.

I know taking this step won’t be easy, but gaining your freedom and happiness will be worth it. As a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I am uniquely qualified to provide you with the psychological and legal strategy necessary to remove yourself safely from the grip of a mentally unhealthy marriage. Whether you negotiate, mediate, or litigate, you won’t do it alone. I, along with my divorce team of mediators, litigators, divorce coaches, private investigators, psychiatrists, and psychologists, will be with you every step of the way! Call me now to find out more…

All our Free 1-Hour Consultations are discreetly and conveniently available virtually.

I look forward to speaking with you!

Warm regards,


Don’t stay in a mentally unhealthy or abusive marriage.

New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner is available right now for a FREE consultation.

Call 212.734.1551.