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Is a Personality Disorder Ruining Your Marriage?


If a personality disorder is ruining your marriage, I am here to help.

Is your marriage surrounded by chaos, hostility, conflict, frustration, and lots of drama? Are your efforts to improve the situation constantly ridiculed, shot down and ignored?

As a medically and psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, I can tell you there might be a lot more going on than just poor communication. It might be that your spouse has a personality disorder.

There are several types of personality disorders:

  1. Obsessive-compulsive;
  2. Anti-social;
  3. Borderline;
  4. Paraniod;
  5. Narcisisstic, just to name a few.

A spouse with a personality disorder can make you feel:


Do you feel like you are losing your mind?

Have your been convinced by your spouse that you are the problem? You have failed? You are worthless?

2. Like You Are Living With Mr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.

At home you are living with one version of your spouse, and outside, in front of family and friends, you are with another version of your spouse.

3. You Are Walking On Eggshells.

You are constantly dodging your spouse’s hotspots. You eventually avoid them at all costs. You never know what verison of your spouse will come walking through the door.

4. It’s Always Your Fault.

If you ever receive an apology it is usually followed by a qualifier like “but you…” They are never wrong or to blame. It’s always your fault!

5. You’re Being Manipulated.

The truth is constantly being twisted or distorted. You are being manipulated and controlled. You are verbally assaulted, and isolated from family and friends.

If you are living in a marriage where you are abused, manipulated or controlled, there is a way out. Your spouse may say they want a happy, healthy marriage but their actions say otherwise. This is not a marriage, you are being held hostage by a personality disorder. Getting out won’t be easy, but with the right divorce team, a successful exit is possible.

Acknowledging that a personality disorder is a third party in your marriage is the first step. The next step is to pick up your phone and call a professional like me and my team of experts. I know this won’t be easy, but gaining your freedom and happiness will be worth it. As a medically and psychologically-trained divorce attorney and mediator, I am uniquely qualified to provide you with the psychological and legal strategy necessary to remove yourself safely from the grip of a spouse with a personality disorder. Call me now to find out more…

Schedule your free consultation right now!

I look forward to helping you secure a safe and successful removal from a marriage to someone with a personality disorder.

Warm regards,


New York Divorce Lawyer Lois Brenner is available for a FREE consultation. Call 212.734.1551 now!