Divorce is sad and hard. But when children are involved, the emotional stakes rise dramatically. For many families, the most contentious and painful part of a breakup revolves around child custody.
While some couples find themselves locked in bitter courtroom custody battles, as a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I guide many to consider mediation as an amicable and less expensive way to address divorce and custody agreements.
Courtroom Battles: Emotionally and Financially Draining
When parents can’t agree on custody, the matter often ends up in court. This adversarial process can:
- Escalate conflict between co-parents
- Drain financial resources with high legal fees
- Delay resolution, leaving families in limbo
- Cause emotional harm to children who feel caught in the middle
In litigation, each parent fights to “win,” often at the expense of cooperation. Judges make decisions based on legal arguments and limited information, not always fully understanding the emotional or psychological nuances of the family dynamic.
Mediation offers a more thoughtful, less combative solution. With my help as a medically trained mediator and attorney, parents can craft a mutually agreeable custody plan that prioritizes the child’s best interests without the courtroom drama or expenses.
Benefits of Creating a Custody Agreement with Mediation:
- Private and confidential setting
- Faster and more affordable than litigation
- Custom solutions tailored to the unique needs of the child and family
- Reduces conflict, laying a better foundation for co-parenting
- Gives parents control, rather than leaving decisions to a judge
But not all mediation is the same.
As a seasoned mediator, divorce attorney and medically trained psychological professional, I offer a uniquely powerful mediation approach. I understand that custody disputes aren’t just legal issues, they’re emotional and psychological issues too.
Why Does My Method Stand Out?
- Psychological Insight: I don’t just listen to what parents say, Iunderstand the underlying emotional triggers and family dynamics driving the conflict.
- Communication Coaching: I help parents shift from combative to cooperative, teaching healthier ways to communicate and resolve issues.
- Child-Centered Approach: Every agreement is crafted to protect the emotional and developmental needs of the children involved.
- Conflict Diffusion: Through my training and years of experience, I identify toxic patterns (like narcissistic behavior or emotional manipulation) and I guide clients toward stability and clarity.
- No Court Required: My method keeps families out of court, reducing trauma and promoting healing.
As a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator for over 35 years, it’simportantto me that the parents I work with feel heard, supported, and empowered. I want them to walk away not just with a legal agreement, but with a roadmap for peaceful co-parenting and long-term success.
I tell my clients, “ Mediation isn’t just easier and less expensive, It’s smarter!”
If you're facing a custody dispute, ask yourself: Do you want a judge deciding your child’s future in a courtroom? Or would you rather sit down in a respectful, structured environment where your voice is heard, your children are protected, and your co-parenting relationship is preserved?
If you are ready to take your child custody matters into your own hands, let me help you. Call now to schedule your free consultation. Call 212.734.1551.
Warm regards,
Lois
Discover how mediation can help you avoid court and create a custody plan that truly works for your family!