When divorce involves mental health issues, the path forward can feel overwhelming, emotionally exhausting, and legally complex. For many couples, litigation only adds fuel to the fire escalating conflict, draining resources, and putting the family in the middle of chaos. But there is a better way.
For over 35 years, as a medically trained divorce attorney and mediator, I have successfully guided clients through even the most emotionally charged divorces using my psychologically based divorce mediation method. My rare combination of legal expertise and medical training in psychiatry offers a compassionate, intelligent approach that changes lives and outcomes.
Divorce and Mental Health: A Complex Mix
Mental health issues are more common in divorce cases than most realize.
- Depression
- Bipolar disorder
- Anxiety
- PTSD
- Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
- Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
- Substance abuse or addiction
- Mood or personality instability
In my legal practice, I see these challenges often cause:
- Emotional reactivity during negotiations
- Difficulty making decisions
- Communication breakdowns
- Impaired co-parenting abilities
- Financial mismanagement or secrecy
In many cases traditional litigation is ill-equipped to address these nuances but mediation guided by psychological insight is not, and can be very effective.
What sets me apart from other divorce attorneys/mediators is my dual background both as a legal and medical professional. My rare combination allows me to:
- Recognize and manage mental health dynamics early in the process
- Use emotional intelligence to de-escalate conflict
- Adapt my communication strategies for emotionally volatile spouses
- Engage outside experts (psychologists, divorce coaches, forensic accountants, private investigators) when needed
- Create tailored solutions that support mental and emotional safety
Unlike litigation, which is adversarial and unpredictable, mediation provides a calm, confidential setting where both parties can:
- Be heard without judgment
- Participate in decisions about their future
- Reduce stress for themselves and their children
- Maintain more control over outcomes
- Create parenting plans that reflect real-life challenges, including mental health concerns
When I am guiding the divorce mediation process, emotional triggers are anticipated, and conversations are handled with skill and sensitivity, not confrontation.
Divorce is hardest on children when conflict goes unchecked. If one parent is unstable or untreated, mediation can provide safeguards without turning the process into a hostile custody battle.
My approach ensures:
- Stability for children
- Parenting schedules that work around therapy, medications, or supervised visitation (if necessary)
- Less emotional fallout from courtroom battles
Mental health doesn’t have to derail your divorce. It can be addressed honestly, respectfully, and legally so that everyone can move forward with clarity, fairness, and peace.
If you or your spouse are struggling with mental illness, you don’t have to go through it alone. I, along with my team of specialists like: divorce coaches, finance professionals, investigators, psychiatrists, and psychologist, some whom offer free consultations, are all here to help.
Don’t let mental health struggles turn into legal disasters. My unique blend of law and psychology can successfully guide you through a healthier divorce process, without court chaos.
If you are looking for a divorce without chaos, call now to schedule your free consultation. Let me help you take the first step towards a safer, happier life. Call 212.734.1771 right now.
“The goal of my psychologically based divorce mediation method isn’t just legal resolution, it’s emotional and psychological well-being for the whole family.”
Lois M. Brenner, Esq.