Blog 2019 November 10 Signs your Spouse may be Cheating! Previous Post | Next Post 10 Signs your Spouse may be Cheating! Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. || 4-Nov-2019 Do you lie awake at night and wonder? Do you have a feeling in the pit of your stomach most of the time? You know something is not quite right, but you can’t put your finger on it. Do you think your spouse is cheating? Are you afraid to ask? Do you think you need proof? I say, pay attention to those little voices and your spouse’s phone or emails. Your instinct could be right! In my divorce/mediation practice of over 35 years, I have seen cheating spouses more than I’d like to admit. Inevitably, a cheating spouse wounds not only their spouse, but an entire family. Don’t bury your head in the sand, if the signs are there, take notice. You’re probably right. Don’t ignore your suspicions. Here are some telltale signs your spouse may be cheating. You feel… Rejected sexually; Feelings are ignored; Spouse is spending less time with you and the children; Spouse is working more; Spouse no longer does things with you as a couple; Spouse needs more privacy; Spouse is spending a lot more time on the computer; Spouse is always changing and hiding computer passwords; Spouse is being financially irresponsible or frivolous; Spouse is hiding credit card statements, cell phone, personal information etc. If you find yourself experiencing some of these things, you are also coming up with excuses for this behavior. That’s being human. It’s hard to admit to oneself that your partner may be dishonest with you. I find intuition is often one of the best indicators that something is wrong. Further investigation is probably necessary. Once you have reviewed all the behavior changes and collected some data, think about doing some investigative work by hiring a professional to look further. Be calm, strong and honest. Be prepared for any outcome. Remember, if they are cheating, also be prepared for lies! For some, saving a marriage is possible. Although trust has been broken and betrayal is painful, some marriages can survive. From what I have seen when a marriage does survive it is because the couple has a strong foundation based in friendship and love. I applaud these couples for their strength to recover. For others, clearly the marriage is over. Now you have to start the painful journey of divorce. Or at least that is what most couples think based upon the traditional view of divorce. But divorce doesn’t always have to be down and dirty. Divorce can be dignified. I encourage couples to consider a divorce that is less painful, more rational, not anger driven and is supportive of the overall well-being of the family. If you are moving towards divorce due to infidelity, I can help you navigate the process with strong psychological support and fair, strategic legal planning to keep your life intact and to help get you and your family get the best possible results. 212.734.1551. Categories: Divorce, Divorce Mediation, Family Law, Psychology Share Post
Blog 2019 November 10 Signs your Spouse may be Cheating! Previous Post | Next Post 10 Signs your Spouse may be Cheating! Posted By Lois M. Brenner, Esq. || 4-Nov-2019 Do you lie awake at night and wonder? Do you have a feeling in the pit of your stomach most of the time? You know something is not quite right, but you can’t put your finger on it. Do you think your spouse is cheating? Are you afraid to ask? Do you think you need proof? I say, pay attention to those little voices and your spouse’s phone or emails. Your instinct could be right! In my divorce/mediation practice of over 35 years, I have seen cheating spouses more than I’d like to admit. Inevitably, a cheating spouse wounds not only their spouse, but an entire family. Don’t bury your head in the sand, if the signs are there, take notice. You’re probably right. Don’t ignore your suspicions. Here are some telltale signs your spouse may be cheating. You feel… Rejected sexually; Feelings are ignored; Spouse is spending less time with you and the children; Spouse is working more; Spouse no longer does things with you as a couple; Spouse needs more privacy; Spouse is spending a lot more time on the computer; Spouse is always changing and hiding computer passwords; Spouse is being financially irresponsible or frivolous; Spouse is hiding credit card statements, cell phone, personal information etc. If you find yourself experiencing some of these things, you are also coming up with excuses for this behavior. That’s being human. It’s hard to admit to oneself that your partner may be dishonest with you. I find intuition is often one of the best indicators that something is wrong. Further investigation is probably necessary. Once you have reviewed all the behavior changes and collected some data, think about doing some investigative work by hiring a professional to look further. Be calm, strong and honest. Be prepared for any outcome. Remember, if they are cheating, also be prepared for lies! For some, saving a marriage is possible. Although trust has been broken and betrayal is painful, some marriages can survive. From what I have seen when a marriage does survive it is because the couple has a strong foundation based in friendship and love. I applaud these couples for their strength to recover. For others, clearly the marriage is over. Now you have to start the painful journey of divorce. Or at least that is what most couples think based upon the traditional view of divorce. But divorce doesn’t always have to be down and dirty. Divorce can be dignified. I encourage couples to consider a divorce that is less painful, more rational, not anger driven and is supportive of the overall well-being of the family. If you are moving towards divorce due to infidelity, I can help you navigate the process with strong psychological support and fair, strategic legal planning to keep your life intact and to help get you and your family get the best possible results. 212.734.1551. Categories: Divorce, Divorce Mediation, Family Law, Psychology Share Post