We see all kinds of abusive relationships in the news but do you know many
marriages end today because one party is dealing with mental health issues
that result in abusive behaviors that destroy marriages?
Today a person facing divorce Googles “books” online, visits
Amazon.com or reads my blog after a barrage of confusing advice from friends
You decide, before seeing a lawyer, you want to read a book to help prepare
for the costly and wrenching experience you are about to endure.
You will find several standard guides with such titles as “The Divorce
Handbook” and “Consultation with a Divorce Lawyer,”
“Verbal Abuse,” or “Mediation.”
These books will tell you what to expect as you begin the legal process
of separation and divorce. Such books provide explanations of the procedures
of divorce in the traditional system, from the first consultation with
an attorney to the final settlement and decree.
After reading them, you will know a great deal about the adversarial system
and about mediation in general, but virtually nothing about the psychology
The central truth about divorce today is that divorce is a “psychological
experience”. Divorce is far more than just what’s in the court
papers, or what a judge decides.
Divorce is about people, psychology and the emotional health of a couple.
The traditional divorce system is an adversarial, lengthy, and costly
process which completely ignores the psychological component of divorce
and is far more interested in conflict and cost.
During over 35 years of practice as a divorce attorney, psychologically-trained
medical professional and court-appointed mediator, I have developed a
psychologically-based divorce process that is highly effective, whether
litigating or mediating, and most importantly, healing.
My method involves behavior modifications, the use of psychology - identifying
personality and character traits, emotions, family dynamics, and skillfully
applying the law to develop strategies tailored to each couple for a more
productive and positive experience. My approach is less adversarial, less
expensive, and less time-consuming than the traditional system.
I engage couples in a productive discussion and effective decision-making,
which leads to healthier, more positive outcomes.
Unlike the standard divorce approach, this method takes into consideration
the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that affect divorcing couples, and
which, if properly identified, can be used to leverage a more successful
and calmer outcome.
It addresses the pervasive presence of verbal abuse in its many HIDDEN
forms which include:
Separating from friends and family
Verbal abuse disguised as jokes
Most attorneys treat divorce as a purely legal (and adversarial) experience.
Divorce is not based solely on the law. It’s about you! All of you!
That includes the psychological make-up of both you and your spouse.
I know taking this step won’t be easy, but gaining your freedom and
happiness will be worth it. As a psychologically-trained divorce attorney
and mediator, I am uniquely qualified to provide you with the psychological
and legal strategy necessary to remove yourself safely from the grip of
an abusive, mentally unhealthy marriage. Call me now to find out more…
Free 1 Hour Consultations are conducted discreetly, conveniently and virtually to reduce risk.
Don’t stay in an abusive marriage, call me now!
I look forward to speaking with you!
Stay healthy and safe!
New York Divorce Lawyer/Mediator Lois Brenner can help you leave an abusive
marriage. Call now for your FREE consultation.