As a divorce attorney and psychologically trained mediator, I have spoken
with many sad, angry, conflicted spouses over the last two years during
the ongoing pandemic. Being locked up together wreaked havoc on many marriages.
Spouses spoke up, acted out, and my phones rang!
Love doesn’t always last forever and the pressures of the pandemic
only accelerated the movement towards ending many unhappy marriages.
During the pandemic there were psychological pressures to make changes
and to walk away from unhappy, unhealthy, and in some cases, abusive marriages.
Spouses felt compelled to make changes, look forward and have a better future.
COVID-19 only exacerbated these already dysfunctional, imbalanced, and
miserable marriages. It not only affected families financially but emotionally.
It forced many lifestyle changes, particularly when it came to divorce,
and it continues to do so.
Divorce is not something you planned for when you walked blissfully down
the aisle. Imagine also having to manage your family and finances during
this turbulent time surrounded by a pandemic. If you are thinking of divorce,
now more than ever, it’s important to make good, financially sound
and family-friendly decisions!
The problem is many couples do lose sight of their family and finances
during a divorce. Everything gets lost in anger and frustration. I encourage
clients to stay focused and to address all the important aspects of divorce.
Just because the marriage didn’t work out, doesn’t mean your
family and finances have to fall apart!
Divorce is not a time to think with your heart, it’s a really an
important time to think with your head. We can all agree that is easier
said than done!
If you are thinking of divorce, I recommend you consider the following:
Once you have decided to divorce, look at your children first. Always think
“in the best interest of the children” as you make your divorce
plans. This can include co-parenting, visitation, talking with the children,
meeting with a family therapist and most importantly, reassuring them
you both love them and always will. Try not to bad-mouth the other spouse.
It will only hurt your children.
Pay attention to your finances. Now is not the time to seek revenge or
get even with one another. Be responsible about the family finances. Don’t
start draining bank accounts, or racking up credit card bills. It will
only come back to bite you. Don’t do something that causes you to
spend thousands of dollars on divorce attorneys. You and your family will
suffer financially in the end. It’s not worth it!
You may have grown accustomed to a certain lifestyle. Now that there will
be two households instead of one, that may have to change. Time to look
at your budget and make the necessary adjustments. You are already under
If you own a home together, consider whether keeping it is financially
in the best interest of all. Maintaining the family home when one spouse
is gone can be stressful and financially difficult. If downsizing or having
a tenant helps, consider it. Think creatively on how to keep your home.
It’s important to have a well-executed settlement agreement. Make
sure your attorney/mediator has included everything of importance to you.
You don’t want to have to go back and forth to court. It’s
stressful and costs money!
For over 35 years as a divorce attorney and mediator, I have been guiding
spouses successfully to find the right path to divorce. If you need help
with your divorce, I would be happy to show you all your options and guide
you on whether you should litigate or mediate. Call me today!
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I look forward to speaking with you.
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