The pandemic and isolation over the last two years made many couples look
more closely at some of the issues that have been eating away at their
The stigma of divorce has certainly changed since the 50s and 60s. Women
have risen in the workforce and are in stronger positions financially.
For others the children are grown, and staying together for the sake of
the children is no longer a necessity. For still others, it is thinking
about life expectancy and people living much longer, wondering if they
really want to spend a lifetime in a miserable marriage.
As a New York divorce attorney and mediator, I see older couples with long
marriages divorcing more often these days. The pandemic has added more
stress to these already strained marriages.
Faye reached out to me early on in the pandemic. She had been a homemaker
for 32 years, raising two children, and now for the last 5 years she was
working from home providing life coaching sessions online. She had created
quite a following on TikToc and was doing very well financially. Her husband
was a tax attorney earning a high six figure salary.
When Faye called me she said she had come to realize during the pandemic
that this marriage was not working for her anymore. She was not sleeping
in the same bed with her husband, and there was no love or affection.
He had his own life and she had her own life. She explained to me living
this way wasn’t enough for her, and she felt she deserved better!
Faye wanted to feel loved, cared for and excited to be alive. She did
discuss these feelings with her husband numerous times, asked him to attend
a therapy session, but he wasn’t interested and seemed to be content.
She called to ask me about mediation and after our consultation, she discussed
mediation with her husband. He agreed to participate in the mediation
process and they were able to successfully agree on how they would proceed
with their divorce.
The couple had hundreds of thousands of dollars in assets, including securities
accounts and real estate. Since this was a long marriage, they agreed
assets and pensions would be divided fairly and Faye was able to remain
in the family home.
Since the children were over 21, the couple did not have to deal with child
support or custody in their agreement.
It takes sophisticated legal advice to plan a late-life divorce. As a seasoned
divorce attorney for over 35 years and mediator with psychological training,
I have the unique skills necessary to guide you through this type of divorce.
When necessary, I engage the assistance of my litigation partner, team
of experts, which consists of trust and estate attorneys, accountants,
tax lawyers, financial advisors, psychologists, and life coaches, to make
sure all issues are thoroughly addressed.
If you are thinking of divorce, call me, I can help you!
Don’t stay in a long term unhappy, unhealthy marriage that is stealing your joy.
Life is short and meant to be lived happily!
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