As a divorce attorney and psychologically-trained mediator, I hear all
kinds of diverse divorce stories. I have decided to share some of these
stories with you monthly.
Naturally, I will change the names and some of the details to protect the
privacy of my clients. The purpose of sharing these divorce stories with
you is to let you know you are not alone. There are peaceful, rational
solutions available to you.
You really can have a happily-ever-after.
Sam and Jean were married for 12 years. They were both professionals. He
was a market research analyst, and she a speech pathologist. They had
three beautiful children, ages 4, 6 and 8. They lived in a large home
on Sands Point, Long Island. When I received a phone call from Sam, he
was hurt and very angry. He left a voice message and wanted a divorce.
During our phone consultation, he told me that his wife was having an emotional
affair with his best friend. He found them texting all the time. He confronted
both of them and they said he was overreacting. They explained they were
friends and nothing more. However, his wife went to his best friend with
all her concerns and complaints about her marriage. It just wasn’t
how he wanted to be married. He felt betrayed and was not having it. I
told him I understood.
We discussed his options. He clearly wanted a divorce and I convinced him
going to court was not the answer. Not in his case. He eventually agreed
to try mediation if his wife agreed to it. I emailed his wife letting
her know her husband had consulted with me about their marital difficulties
and inviting her to participate in a free consultation to learn about
His wife agreed and we had a good conversation.
She didn’t want to divorce her husband. She still loved him but she
loved his best friend too! Her husband was right about his suspicions.
They had a few painful conversations and she finally agreed to divorce
using the mediation process.
They owned a home together valued at $4 million dollars, a vacation home
on St. Kitts valued at $875,000.00 and their assets and pensions totaled
$ 1.8 million dollars.
Sam then went on to say he wanted full custody of their 3 children because
he didn’t want his children living with his wife and his best friend.
Eventually Sam agreed to joint custody. There was an understanding his
best friend, for now, would not reside in the home with their children.
The properties and assets were all distributed fairly.
If this sounds like you, please know that discussion, compassion, negotiation,
and solid legal guidance can solve your divorce problems. Your divorce
can be thoughtful, amicable and fair if you consider mediation!
If you would like to share your story with me, call me. I will give you
common sense answers to all your divorce questions. I will help you, as
I did with Sam and his family, to find a silver lining, using my powerful
psychologically-infused divorce mediation method so you can move on with
your life peacefully.
FREE CONSULTATIONS are
conveniently conducted virtually to reduce risk.
I look forward to hearing your story, and helping you find the best possible solution.
Stay healthy and safe!
Call New York Divorce Attorney and mediator Lois Brenner now to book your
Free Consultation. 212.734.1551